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jessinator55
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[I've been on the pill since October, and I am never late with pills]

I also take anti-depressants so this may be causing some of these problems with dryness--

But-we have tried different things. If we have sex with a condom and no lube.. it tends to become painful from dryness. If we have sex with a condom and lube the condom tends to slip off and depending on the time of the month, I get irritated by the lube (we have used two kinds and are using astroglide now)..

The only thing that seems to work and is pleasurable is without a condom at all and my question is if that would be too risky to stop using condoms even if I am on BC and take it correctly.


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PS! We've been screened for STI's and are monogamous:)
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(Per your other post, likely this wasn't found because it had a reply to it from you, which made it look, at a glance, like a moderator had replied.)

If you've been monogamous for at least six months, and both had negative STI screens at the end of that period and intend to stay monogamous, your risks are minimal from going without the condoms. Absolutely, it backs up your birth control and still helps prevent infection, but going without at that point would NOT be high risk.

However, I bet if your partner used a snugger-fit condom, WITH extra lube, that things would work better with the condoms. You may also want to try using a glycerin-free lube (just look at the bottle for that) if you're experiencing irritation from lube.

Too, do make sure that you're waiting until you're highly aroused, and really, physically as well as emotionally, WANTING intercourse or other vaginal penetration, before you do so. Anti-depressents don't usually cause dryness issues, but they can decrease libido or arousal, and that tends to inhibit lubrication.

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But what about the pregnancy risks?
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Since you're on the pill and taking it correctly, as Miz S said, your pregnancy risks are minimal. The pill is highly effective at preventing pregnancy when used properly.

It's really up to you whether you feel comfortable enough with only the pill for pregnancy prevention, or whether you'd rather have the added protection of condoms.

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If you're taking your pills as directed, the risks of using only the pill are minimal. They are not nonexistent, but they are very small.

But if any risk at all is too much for you, then yes, you will want to try one or all of the things I suggested so that you can keep using condoms.

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