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For some reason when ever me and my girlfriend try to have sex I can never get a full Erection. I have had sex before and I have never had this problem before. Also when I masturbate I have no problem at all getting a full erection. When Im with her I feel that I am fully aroused and I really want to but It seems like my body just wont let me. Any suggestions?
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Well, if you're having nno trouble on your own, chances are it's just nervousness, which is very, very common. So the best answer to that is simply to give it time so that over time, you can become more comfortable.

It's also worthwhile to check in with yourself and make sure that nervousness isn't stemming from a lack of readiness. While we can want to do something very muchm, that desire doesn't necessarily translate into actual readiness, and anxiety can sometimes be our mind and bodies' way of giving us a clue about that.

Take a look here: Ready or Not? ÐThe Readiness Checklist

Remember too, that readiness isn't something that we have once and then always do. It's situational.

So, take a look there, check in with yourself. And then take the pressure off. An erect penis or intercourse aren't required for physical or emotional intimacy, and the lack of one doesn't need to be any barrier to those things unless you set yourself up to make it one.

Heather Corinna
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