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Before everyone starts thinking I'm some horrible guy because milke is making me soudn that way, I do not initiate sex anymore. I don't even ASK anymore because I DO INDEED RESPECT her. If you did not read carefully I said NO WOMAN IS OBLIGATED TO HAVE SEX.

And oral sex is not something NEW we are trying so don't make it sound like I am trying to CUT CORNERS with the sex deal. Her spirituality is hers to deal with, and we have sex when SHE wants to not me.

And sorry for replayign this way but I cannot replay on my own post I just didn't want to be misunderstood...

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So, um, if you're cool with her wish not to have sex at the moment while she decides what's right for her spiritually - then what is your first question?

With regard to your second question, about her self-consciousness during oral sex, you might find this thread - - illuminating about some of the anxieties people may have about oral sex.

But really, the person most likely to know what would make her more comfortable is her, so your best bet is to ask.

And if it turns out that she's uncomfortable with oral sex because she feels that any sort of sex is wrong for her spiritually, or she just doesn't want it, for whatever reason, then obviously you have to respect that.

Ultimately, if it turns out that her spiritual beliefs are totally incompatible with what you want to be doing sexually, then your sexual relationship may not have much of a future.

Sometimes people's lives, choices and preferences mean that they are not going to be sexually compatible, and there's not much we can do about that.

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