I hope this is the right area for this. I've been lurking here for a little while, but this is my first time posting. I have a problem, and I figured you guys could help me better than anyone else.
Okay, I've been dating my boyfriend for four months now. He's a great guy, and we have a very strong relationship (honestly, I could see myself marrying him). There's just one problem. He doesn't seem to understand that I don't want to have sex every single day.
Let me explain. I'm at summer school right now, and he's here at school finishing up a research project. (We both go to the same college.) He's been here for the past week, and every night for the past week, it's been the exact same thing - he comes over, we go out to dinner, and then we come back to my room and have sex. I love having sex with him. It's just that I am *so* busy right now I can't even see straight - between schoolwork and looking for a summer job, I don't even have time to breathe, let alone spend 6 hours every single night doing dinner and sex. Plus, I'm at a point in my menstrual cycle where my sexual drive is absolutely nonexistant. So not only have I had to have sex with him every night, but I've had to fake it every night too!
I tried telling him that I have schoolwork to do and that I can't spend the entire night with him. It didn't work. I tried telling him that I was exhausted and I really didn't want to have sex. It didn't work. The problem is, he gets hard just thinking about sex, and I feel like a tease if I send him home with an erection, so I get him off so I can get him out. (I think he knows that guilt tripping me like this works.) How can I explain to him that, unlike him, I don't have the sex drive of an 18 year old guy, and there are some nights where I really don't want to have sex!
(edited because this is really stressing me out and I can't spell when I'm stressed)
[This message has been edited by Ktnb (edited 06-02-2002).]