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The reason why I am a bit worried is that I have been with guys before and it has been really good. About a year ago i had a bad experience with a guy which had left me sorta messed up and I think this is why things didn't go that well. So it's ok for my body to react like this even though I really wanted to have sex with him?
It was like yes yes yes then when we started doing it I was like oh no! I have talked to him since and I think things are ok between us, I just don't want to jepoardise our relationship over one bad experience. Is it likely that it will be like this the next time?

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Yes, it's fine if there was a little pain or bleeding. To get over the bad experience that you had, if you begin feeling uncomfortable again during sex, slow down until you feel comfortable again. Even if you have to stop, it's all right--it's important for you to feel relaxed, both for your physical health and emotional health.

Try talking it over with your partner--just take little baby steps until you finally get to where you want to be. Also, if you feel that you need outside help, you could talk to a therapist.

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