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Heh, thanks for the help. I don't know why, but I think I like to talk confusing sometimes(for entertainment)? It might've been because it was around 1am that I wrote that. Basically, I just am not sure which hole I went into. I mean I'm not a complete ditz, but I guess it's just a little bit of paranoia. And to be totally honest, there was a slight musty smell on my finger afterwards that really just surprised me (as it did not smell like my own crotch smell). Maybe it's just the smell of inner skin or something? thanks for the help, i'm about to read that article now..later
ps: I think sitting down and having a nitty-gritty discussion would probably be quite difficult. She really is shy sometimes, especially when it comes to having such a serious discussion, which I believe mainly comes from her not really knowing what she wants. Any great revelations in this area would be nice, thanks gals & guys
pss: Also, I remember something else that caused the confusion...it wasn't INCREDIBLY tight as I sorta thought it would be, but then again I have no idea what is supposed to be tight coming from a vigin finger to a virgin vagina (i'm fairly sure of that atleast). And there also felt like I was hitting a bone when I curved my finger more. I'm reading the article right now, but I'm not sure if it is going to really describe what a virgin's insides are supposed to feel like so I figured I'd ask here just so I don't miss out! Ok, I also apologize if I'm being very confusing again...thanks in advance again bye
[This message has been edited by impawstur (edited 03-03-2002).]
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Well, really, if the two of you aren't able to talk openly about things like sex and where the relationship, then you might want to re-think things a bit. Clear communication is absolutely necessary in a good relationship.
Also, no offense, but if you "like to talk confusing" in real life as well as online, it may be adding to your problems communicating with this girl.
If you think talking face-to-face would be too difficult at first, why not write her a letter explaining what you're feeling, and give it to her? That way you can think out what you want to say ahead of time, and if she's embarrassed or shy, she can take her time figuring out what she wants to say in reply. I wouldn't recommend it as a regular form of communication, but writing can be particularly helpful in getting a discussion started.
But do talk to her. She's the only one who has the answers. We're not in her head, so we can't tell you what she's thinking.
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As well, "virgins" aren't some sort of mystical, other-creatures. They're still fully-functioning humans, and as a result, their insides are pretty much the same as "non-virgins." The idea of "virgins" being tighter than "non-virgins" is a myth; nervousness can make our muscles tense up, and since the vagina is an elastic muscular organ, it pretty much always stays the same tightness whether one's had sex or not.
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