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rob_4325
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I think i`m so used to the way which I masturbate that when my girlfriend does it, I can`t ejaculate. Because I am so set in my own way of doing it, I find it hard to ejaculate when she does it for me. We have talked about how I do it, and she has tried it on me, but to no sucess. What should I do? Is there a solution to this problem?
I find that when I don`t masturbate for a while, the next time I do I often come without too much effort. is this the answer? i`m getting worried about it because it makes my girlfriend think she is bad at it.
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Beppie
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I'm afraid we can't offer technique advice here, firstly because it's illegal at a site that has to be appropriate for 13 year olds, and secondly because there is no magical technique that guarantees orgasm.

However, there is still some advice we can offer.

Firstly, are you comfortable when your girlfriend is performing manual sex on you? Being comfortable and relaxed is important when engaging in any sexual activity, and it is definitely harder to achieve orgasm if you are not. If you aren't comfortable, then it's totally okay to not engage in that particular sexual activity until you do feel ready for it.

Secondly, even if you are comfortable, it could be the stress of wanting to reach orgasm preventing you from actually having one. Orgasm doesn't have to be the goal of sex, and if it feels nice, then don't worry too much about whether or not you're going to have one. It will probably happen eventually, and in the meantime, you may as well enjoy it anyway.

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