I remember that for me, the punk scene in the early 80's was a really good haven for me when it came to my gender identity. I could show up looking femme when I wanted to, butch when I wanted to, but regardless of how I looked, if I was in the mosh pit holding my own with everybody else of all genders, I felt like my gender was simply irrelevant, in no kind of category or binary, and that was really freeing. Binary gender always felt like such a drag for me, so being able to play with those binaries with my appearance, but transgress them when it came to the social aspects of all of it was just a great thing, and I found few other environments back then that allowed me that.
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That is what I meant, eryn_smiles: someone who transgresses gender norms. Someone whose gender identity is at odds with mainstream culture.
I wanted this to be a space for transgressions primarily related to physical expression--things having to do with feeling authentic in your body--but like Heather's post touched on, there could be related social or behavioral elements too.
When I was playing with gender I was tickled when a little boy on the bus (that makes a trip to the local community college) asked his mom "Where's he going?" (referring to me). I was wearing a very gangster outfit but I didn't think Mom would register me as male. His mom answered- "He's a big boy, he's going to the college." I was like *success!*
Now I feel beautiful when I can put together a really crazy outfit with a mix of lumberjack and indie girl inspirations and just feel really individual and good about me and everyone around me!
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