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bluejumprope
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I recently got my first chest binder and it makes me so happy I can't stop smiling when I have it on. [Smile] (Except when I'm in public. Then I'm one tough butch...not really [Razz] ).

It's such a beyond awesome feeling to have your gender expression feel Right. I wanted to make a thread for other people to share their gender victories. Big or small; whatever is significant to you.

These can be things that happened recently, or for those of you farther along in a transition, moments your remember as turning points. What are things that have made you feel good in your skin?

Was there a first item of clothing or accessory you acquired that just made you feel great? A time you felt at home in your body because of how you were read or referred to? Maybe a momentous haircut?

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Heather
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I love this post.

I remember that for me, the punk scene in the early 80's was a really good haven for me when it came to my gender identity. I could show up looking femme when I wanted to, butch when I wanted to, but regardless of how I looked, if I was in the mosh pit holding my own with everybody else of all genders, I felt like my gender was simply irrelevant, in no kind of category or binary, and that was really freeing. Binary gender always felt like such a drag for me, so being able to play with those binaries with my appearance, but transgress them when it came to the social aspects of all of it was just a great thing, and I found few other environments back then that allowed me that.

[ 11-14-2009, 01:57 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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eryn_smiles
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Bluejumprope, what does "transgressive" mean in this sense? Someone who transgresses gender norms?

PS- Glad the binder makes you feel awesome [Smile] !

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bluejumprope
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That is what I meant, eryn_smiles: someone who transgresses gender norms. Someone whose gender identity is at odds with mainstream culture.

I wanted this to be a space for transgressions primarily related to physical expression--things having to do with feeling authentic in your body--but like Heather's post touched on, there could be related social or behavioral elements too.

(Thanks [Smile] )

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Bonnie.N.Clyde
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When I was playing with gender I was tickled when a little boy on the bus (that makes a trip to the local community college) asked his mom "Where's he going?" (referring to me). I was wearing a very gangster outfit but I didn't think Mom would register me as male. His mom answered- "He's a big boy, he's going to the college." I was like *success!*

Now I feel beautiful when I can put together a really crazy outfit with a mix of lumberjack and indie girl inspirations and just feel really individual and good about me and everyone around me!

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TheWhiteCrayon
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I recently made a set of binders for myself out of old pantyhose (ha!) and cut my hair shorter, and, while at a McD's the other day, the cashier called me a "helpful young man".

I could not stop smiling for hours. |D

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