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Women come in all sizes. Men come in all sizes. Body shape or size has absolutely nothing to do with sexual orientation, nor does size determine whether or not someone is male or female, or masculine or feminine.
Men of all orientations often enjoy anal play.
I also have absolutely no idea what the way you hold hands has to do with any of this.
Sounds to me like you both have some pretty skewed and awfully limited ideas about gender, really. That's about it.
(And for future reference, Scarleteen is an inclusive site. That means that football players may use the site, too, and should expect to be able to come here and not be namecalled just like anyone else should expect that courtesy. If you feel insecure about them, you feel insecure, and that's something to examine, but we expect users to treat everyone with courtesy here, and speak respectful about eveyone, please. Thanks!)
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Thing is, there is no one visual for a football player, just like there isn't for anyone else. Sure, guys who play football, because of what the sport requires, are usually stockier, but their size doesn't determine their orientation, their behaviour, or much else at all.
Per your main question...well, I'm not sure I understood what you main question even was. Is it normal for a heterosexual couple to have a smaller man and a slightly heavier woman? Sure. Does that mean they're gay? That has nothing to do with anything. And it's a flawed idea to think that someone's size or shape makes them any more or less of a man or any more or less of a woman.
If that doesn't answer the question, I'll need you to make more clear what the question is.
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To be perfectly honest with you, very few people save aerialists WOULD be able to do such a thing, and fewer more would even be interested in having that done in the first place (especially considering that the oral sex involved would probably be pretty lousy, given it'd be mighty hard to concentrate on someone's genitals when you had to worry about dropping them on the floor).
Sex between people is supposed to be about shared pleasure and intimacy: not a circus act.
And again, you're making assumptions about gender that just aren't sound. There is no "male" way to have or enjoy sex nor a "female" way. What people enjoy varies by personality, not by gender or orientation. And that diversity is what is normal.
As far as if this is a good match, given all of your posts here about this relationship, it certainly doesn't sound like -- as a whole relationship, as well as a sexual one -- that you two have the greatest dynamic I've ever seen, to say the least, nor does it sound like either of you are really approaching sex in the healthiest way. But that's not about your gender, and more about all of what you have been expressing in terms of trust issues, the way you seem to communicate with each other, the way you talk about her, etc. However, you are going to know better than anyone here if this is a beneficial relationship for you or not (though I think in another post you just said you broke up with this girl today anyway?).
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i think its some sort of way to feel better about not being able to have sex with eachother
a lil background
we met at a party and she had a bf
we have had more ups and downs than you can imagine
i moved her in and we probably had sex 5 tiems or more a day
now we havnt seen eachother sicne the 30th of last month
we talk on the phone about once every 4 hours and i beat off about 5 times a day
she purchaced a vibrator to help her pleasure herself
back over a year ago b4 we ever met she had some pretty hardcore sex with another girl or 2 and she of course got her orgasms
but she claims i am the first guy to ever make her orgasm
she tells me ive gotter her off like 11 times once and on average 2-5 times each session
now it seems a bit odd to me that she has had almost 2 handful of previous lovers and im the only guy to make her get off
lies? or am i good? or is she jsut that comfortable with me? or maybe as i stated in other threads im kinda a feminine guy maybe she is turned on my my femininity?
I ask because that seems to be the only arena in which you talk about the relationship.
(FYI? I know another volunteer here aksed you already, but please do us the courtesy of not passing out sexual details that we don't really need. How many times you masturbate in a day has no bearing on the quality of a relationship, nor does your partner's previous sexual history in this regard. Thanks.)
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(FYI? General users are asked not to post replies in the two areas of the boards marked ONLY for replies from staff and volunteers. I've just deleted a post of yours there. In addition, I'm going to ask one last time for you to please be more mindful of how you talk here. The euphamisms and language you used in that post I deleted were totally unrespectful. Please address people's issues and bodies with respect, okay?)
This isn't about you being a jerk. Rather, given that we by all means understand at this point how sexually active you are, when you're asking for a perspective on the whole of a relationship, when you only speak about one aspect of it -- the sexual aspect -- it's basically not possible to give that perspective, understand?
-------------------- Heather Corinna, Executive Director & Founder, Scarleteen About Me Get our book! Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. - Margaret Mead Posts: 63358 | From: An island near Seattle | Registered: May 2000
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Hey, everyone has a learning curve here. So long as users respect the guidelines they agreed to and follow our suggestions if and when they're posting in a way that isn't workable here, no one is going to get banned. Not everyone comes from the same background or the same place, and we get that.
I'm glad you had a good conversation. In terms of the larger question, that's obviously an issue we can't speak very much to with a barnd-new user: we just don't know you or your patterns well enough to say.
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