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Stacii-Jayd
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im a gurl, and i'm 14...and i would give life to be a boy!
i went through that phase since i was goodness knows, a lil tiny person to when i was about 11 being a tom-boy, playing football ya know boy stuff..then that all changed when i went to secondary skool, i worked out i couldn't really be like that no more..i'm now in year 9, and now i'm fed up with trying to be so gurly all the time, don't get me wrong i like wearing eyeliner..but eyeliner looks so good at emo boys.
plus i'm more of a wannbe boy then ever after i went on a skool trip few weeks ago and a bunch of gurls thought i was an emo boy..and one of them thought i was hot (obv i didn't say i was a gurl, she was dead pretty..oh btw, i'm bisexual)
i mean i try to dress boy anyway with a bit of makeup and you get people who like 'is that a gurl or a boy" and i smile and i don't mind being called a boy.
but i want to change and be a boy for sure. but my boyfriend said i'm just mad, and i'm proberly just going through what i went through before....
i'm so confussed any advice would be a great help to me!!

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Heather
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Just FYI?

Some of what you're describing here isn't about being a boy, but about having a gender identity as a woman that just isn't femme or very traditional. LOTS of women enjoy sports, lots of women don't like to dress "girly," and lots of women's gender presentation and identity isn't traditional or high femme.

You don't HAVE to present that way, or take on that role. Lots of us don't.

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daria319
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And some of what you're describing...is exactly what I'm playing with at the moment. I'm in my fourth year of college now, and I'm playing with the whole gender presentation thing. I've been dressing in suits, wearing white dress shirts and vests, and, most recently, I've cut my hair very short. I personally got fed up with being recognized as "that hot chick from the bar", instead of just ME. Gender, sexuality..they're all so fluid in my head. I don't "feel", or act, or even quite understand male or female beyond a basic biological standpoint right now.

Much of this was brought into focus by talking to a transgendered friend who kind of initiated some of these conversations, and remarked that we were more alike than expected.

Just know that you're not the only person playing with society's expectations and ideas about gender.

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Heather
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quote:
I've been dressing in suits, wearing white dress shirts and vests, and, most recently, I've cut my hair very short.
You're me as I was in the 80's (and not far from me now, really)! [Smile] Happy nostalgia....

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quote:
Originally posted by Heather:
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I've been dressing in suits, wearing white dress shirts and vests, and, most recently, I've cut my hair very short.
You're me as I was in the 80's (and not far from me now, really)! [Smile] Happy nostalgia....
Kinda makes me happy to know someone else shares my quirky fashion sense ^_^

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Stacii-Jayd
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daria319, i've done pretty much the same as you too, i cut my hiar from which i couuld nearly sit on the above my neck..and my i want to get it cut even shorter!
the most annoying thing is..i can't wear guy's clothes..my hips are like HUGE. it's deadly annoying, so i just wear really baggy skater jeans or something along them lines. i'm ok on top half, i'm kinda small, so easily hidden [Smile]

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