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Ok well I don't exactly know if this makes sense but here it goes. Ok as far as I know, I am straight, I'm not attracted to females and homosexuality is against my religion and I don't believe it is right. I don't lust after girls or desire to have any kind of sexual relation with them...but...Ok my best friend lives in Iowa, and I live in Louisianna...and I don't get to see her very often. But when I do, we are really really affectionate. We hold hands and kiss each other on like the cheek and forehead and stuff. And it's really weird but one day when she was here for like a week I got the urge to kiss her on the lips...I think she is a gorgeous girl...but I still wouldn't want to do anything sexual with her...so does kissing her make me gay? Or bi because I'm attracted to guys? But I'm not attracted to her...I'm really confused and I was just wondering you guy's opinions...thanks!
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FYI- This post probably should have gone under Orientation and Identity. Gender is not the same thing as orientation, and your question is about the latter.
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You simply are who you are - being concerned and preoccupied with affixing some unbending, all-encompassing label to yourself is generally not worth the tension which it precipitates. Sexuality tends to be fluid, and varying degrees of attraction to both the same and opposite sex - regardless of whether you consider yourself gay, straight, bisexual, or otherwise - inevitably will, at some point, occur. It would seem, in this particular circumstance, that you simply enjoy the company of your friend, are fond of being close with her, and appreciate her beauty; certainly, this is natural, and does not, by default, defy your sense of being mostly heterosexual. Be open to feeling whatever you feel, act in accordance with what is most comfortable, and try not to let overanalysis of what it all "means" intervene and interfere too extensively.
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