I think there are different standards for men. If a boy goes out and has sex, he will most likely get a pat on the back and get called 'stud' or 'pimp daddy' for a while. Why are the standards so different for boys and girls?

What do you think?

I don't know why the standards are so different... personally, I haven't really found that they are. In high school, the people who had had lots of sex (male or female) were cool, and the virgins weren't. Or at least, that's how I perceived it (I was a virgin )

Sometimes if you call someone on it, he'll try to cover himself by saying something really stupid, like "Well, I just think she can't have much self-respect if she's letting all those guys have their way with her."

You know what to say then. "So you're trying to help her self-respect by going around calling her a slut?"

The irony is that although the implied meaning of slut is that you have many sex partners, it only counts if it's with people who go to our school. I proudly identify as a slut, but I can't seem to get my reputation to match my identity :-P No one thinks of me as a slut, but I'd rather they consider me a slut than consider some poor 9th grader a slut who would take it as an insult.

Some people do use it to apply to all genders these days, but most of the time, when it is applied to a woman, it is done with more force, it is more often intended to be an insult, than when it is applied to a man. And it is still far more common for a woman to be called a slut than a man. Often, it is other women doing the name calling, which is just incredibly sad.

I hate it when used as an insult to women for several reasons. First, because it implies that women ought can be persecuted for their sexual choices. Second, because when it is used towards women for reasons other than their sexual choices (I was called a slut in 7th grade for the simple crime of not fitting in- the fact that I'd never even HELD HANDS with a guy romantically at 12 years old didn't seem to matter), it doubly reinforces the idea of sexual shame- because the best way to tell someone how ashamed that they don't fit in with social norms is to equate that with the sexual shame that a woman is "supposed" to feel when she makes sexual choices that society doesn't feel appropriate.

When I hear some guys at school talking, they encourage each othe to sleep with as many girls as possible. And the faster a guy can get a girl into bed, the cooler he is. But the faster a girl gets into bed with a guy, the "sluttier" she is. It doesn't make sense to me ::sigh::.