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ghostly
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i'd like to begin by saying im 19, and i really want to get on birth control. ever since i've had my period, i've always had really irregular cycles where sometimes i go a couple months without a period and recently i've become sexually active. frankly, i'm just exhausted of stressing out over my menstrual cycle. the thing is i just got out of high school less than six months ago, and although i have a job, i don't really know much about being independent. i know i'm still covered on my dad's insurance, and i have to make an appointment with my family doctor to get a prescription. but i just need some advice on how to go about doing that. can anyone help me out with what to expect and what information i'll need?

also, i really want to keep this as private as possible. i mean since i'm an adult and i'm trying to get protection, if my parents found out i don't think they would have a problem with it, but i still want to keep it private. anyway, it would really mean a lot if anyone could give me some help with this. [Frown]

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Stephanie_1
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Hey ghostly, Welcome to Scarleteen.

Do you have an idea what type of birth control you'd like to be using. If you haven't yet thought much about it or don't know all the options available to you, how about taking a browse through our Birth Control Bingo article first. After you look through that then we can walk you through some options and also through what you'll need to know beforehand.

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ghostly
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I'd like to get on the pill cause i've heard that also helps regulate the menstrual cycle, and it seems like that would be the easiest to get especially since i don't really know how much if any my insurance would cover. also i don't think i would be comfortable on anything but the pill.
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Heather
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Well, what happens is that hormonal methods, like the pill, patch, ring and others change the fertility cycle, and generally vaginal bleeding is due to withdrawal from the chemicals each cycle.

So, it doesn't "regulate" the normal menstrual cycle, because that cycle is put on pause while using those methods, basically. Rather, when using them, bleeding will often tend to be lighter, shorter and occur on a more predictable schedule after the first few cycles.

You and your healthcare provider can talk together to be sure the pill is right for you if that's what you're thinking sounds best.

If you're concerned about privacy, know that your healthcare information is private by law. Your billing information, however, is different in terms of your parents insurance company being billed. So, if you visit using their insurance, and get a method with their insurance, that will tend to show up on their statements.

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ghostly
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thanks that was what i was worried about. my sex life is something i really don't want to discuss with my parents. the other thing i was wondering when i go to the doctor what's going to happen? i've heard you have to take a pelvic exam. this might be a stupid question, but what are they going to do for the pelvic exam? i think im getting myself to worked up over this, but i'd feel a lot better if i had someone i could talk to [Frown]
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ghostly
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actually now that i think about it, is there someone i could talk to about this stuff rather than just posting everything up on a forum? cause i have a lot of questions about what's going to happen. and i'm just not sure what to do. i've been trying to read around on this site but i haven't seen anything that can help me.
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Heather
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Here's a page on what to expect with a pelvic exam: Your First Gynecologist Visit.

I'm not sure what you're looking for per someone to talk with. If you mean another way to talk with us, there's our text service, if you like. Otherwise, that's about it.

But we're certainly not the only people you can talk to. You can call into the doctor or clinic you're thinking of going to and ask them, or even just make a visit for a consultation where you talk about the services they offer and what policies they have. Some clinics in the US here also have phone lines we could direct you to, if you like.

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ghostly
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thanks! this looks like it will be helpful. and i might give the text service a look when i get the chance cause this is the first im hearing about it. but yeah, i think im good on questions for a while.
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