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Never had any kind of sex ed classes so am asking what is probably a stupid question. Please bear with me!

I just had protected sex (with a condom) ... and it did not tear, it did not slip off and from the moment I shed my clothes till I put them back on, we had the condom preventing actual genital contact.
Is there any reason for me to panic? I might add that I live in a country where birth control and emergency contraception is illegal. (in fact, the last sex advice forum I was a member of got blocked by their internet service ...)

Also, does having sex for the first time affect the onset of periods? I did not bleed, but my hymen was broken quite a few months back and it bled then. I've also heard stress can affect the menstrual cycle, making the period come late? I think this is true, please correct me if I am wrong.

Thank you in advance [Smile]

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If a condom is used correctly and for all genital contact, and does not slip off or break, there is no reason to worry about pregnancy risks.

And no, unless you get pregnant, sex does not influence your period. Though it is possible for periods to come a little later if you are very stressed out.

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If you used your condom properly -- and it sounds like you did, but since you haven't had any ed, you can take a look at this to be sure, for now and the future -- then pregnancy is unlikely. Condoms, like nearly all other methods, are not 100% effective even in perfect use. But unlike other methods, we usually do know when they fail because we can see the break or know a condom slipped off.

Obviously, if condoms are all you have to work with, you're going to need to figure out if you're comfortable with condoms alone or not. It's also always a good idea to be sure we could deal with an accidental pregnancy if we're going to have intercourse, because even with the most reliable methods of birth control it still is always a risk. If a pregnancy seems like a total nightmare, or something that would ruin our lives, it's wise to consider if that kind of sex is really the best thing for us at that time.

No kind of sex can change menstrual periods unless a pregnancy occurs: those are controlled by a different part of your body than sex engages. But by all means, the stress some people experience around or with sex may have that effect.

[Sorry for the extra post!]

[ 06-10-2009, 10:13 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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