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DoctorRiverSong
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Hi, I've been sexually active for about two months now and I'm just wondering if the level of anxiety I'm experiencing over pregnancy is warranted. I've been on the pill longer than I've been sexually active, about to start my fourth pack, and around the time of my withdrawal bleed I always get nervous that I'm pregnant. We don't use condoms, we just don't like the feeling and we're both our first and only sexual partners, but I take my pill at the same time every day and we do our best to pull out before he ejaculates. I know that the pill is very effective if taken correctly, and I know all of the things that lower the effectiveness of the pill (thank you Scarleteen!) but I have some issues with anxiety and would love to have my mind set at ease. Just please let me know about how worried about getting pregnant I should be, outside of some kind of "the 1% it just doesn't work for" fluke.

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Heather
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Well, let's first of all be real about effectiveness rates, okay?

Perfect use rates of a method like the pill are about clinical studies, not use in daily life. It's a bit better to go by the typical use rate (92%) or, if you use your pill very well, figure you might be between typical and perfect use, so more like 95% effectiveness (in one year).

So, you just need to figure if you feel safe enough with that 5-8% level of risk in a year. If you do, then okay. If you don't, then your best bet is to use dual contraception, adding a backup method to your pill.

Condoms are one great option (and if you don't like the feeling, chances are you could use them better so that what you didn't like mostly went poofie: like, are you using plenty of extra lube and using a style of condom you like?), but they're not the only option.

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