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Edhelino
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Me & my boyfriend have tried to have sex before, but it hurt so so much!
Last night he stayed over at my dorm & we tried to have sex again.
It was actually going in perfectly, i think it was about 2 more inches until his penis was fully in, but then i felt like a pop or a break or something inside of me that hurt so so sooo much!
I immediately pushed him off & i had my hand on my vagina because i was hurting so much.
When u pulled out my hand, i was bleeding, but not too much.
But my question is, why does it hurt so much?!
What can we do so it won't hurt?
Advice?

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Have you read this lovely article?

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/from_ow_to_wow_demystifying_painful_intercourse

I think this should help you.

What I'm guessing is that you tore something. Was he being forceful? Or were you not going slow enough? Whatever the case, I wouldn't suggest having intercourse or fingering for a while, until it heals up.

(Also, you don't need to have your partner's penis completely inside of you. It's not, like, a necessary requirement for sex. Only do what's comfortable.)

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Edhelino
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we were going in really slow.
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Okay, but looking at that article, is there anything else you can identify on it that may have be causing you pain?

Have you also first started with an exam at an OB/GYN or other sexual health provider?

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Also, since you guys weren't using lube, that might have been part of the problem.

I'm not saying that would be the ONLY problem, but lube certainly helps.

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Sloight bleeding in normal when you are starting out. The Popping feeling could have been your hymen breaking. Consult your OB/GYN if you are still experiencing pain duing intercourse
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michael- In my experience bleeding is not something that usually happens, unless it is really rough sex. Also, hymens don’t just "break", but rather they wear away over time. Besides, she said he was pretty well fully inside her, and when present the hymen (corona) is located just inside the vaginal opening.

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[ 11-16-2010, 09:18 AM: Message edited by: happybunny123 ]

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thanks u guys.
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