I really want to have oral sex with my boyfriend we have been dating for a year and a half and have'nt really done anything. He thinks were too young to have intercoure(15 and 16)but we make out and touch eachother just for the sake of arrousing eachother and making eachother horney so I thought mabey he would want to have oral sex but im not sure how to bring it up with him and talk about it or how i could show him that i want to. Like to I just start kissing him down there and then see how he reacts from there or somthing......please help i really want to I just dont know how to go about it.
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It's really ideal to talk about this kind of sex just like you have talked about others. Just putting our mouth's on someone's genitals without asking them if that's okay first really isn't okay.
So, how about having the same kinds of talks about that you had about intercourse? Like, you could pen it by saying, "Hey, I know intercourse is out for you, but how do you feel about oral sex?" You can then voice that that's something you might be interested in, and see where the conversation goes from there.
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Talking with each other can never be said enough! This is true at all stages of the relationship. I am not sure what all is involved with “…but we make out and touch eachother just for the sake of arrousing eachother and making eachother horney …” but you might start up the conversation as Heather suggests and ask about mutual masturbation, if you haven’t gotten that far yet, as another possibility too. Remember, the “goal” of having sexual activities shouldn’t just be about climaxing, it is about the whole experience of being together. I suggest simply going slowly, learning more about each other, and enjoy!
Well depends on the boy....but if he has such convictions about young sex i would advise chatting with him. Just tell him you know he isn't ready for sex but how would he feel about oral sex.
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