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Gingerbread
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Hey yall, I was hoping someone could assist me. I'm trying to explain how my birth control pill works and protects us so well to my boyfriend, but of course, he's a boy and doesnt really understand all that technical female stuff when i tell him about it. Any guys out there that understand how the pill works that can explain it to another guy, so I can show him? I can't seem to word it correctly.
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Heather
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Well, he can certainly educate himself on the female body and reproductive system. The reason he doesn't understand it isn't likely because he's male, but because he hasn't sought out information to have that information, you know?

There's no "guy-way" to explain this, because again, it's not like all guys don't get this because they're guys. Lots of men are just as educated as women are (and plenty of women don't understand their own bodies, despite living in them).

But let me toss you a couple links, both on how the pill works, and also on your body, okay? Why don't you just share these with him:
• Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill)
• http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_do_birth_control_pills_really_work_even_during_the_placebo_period
• Where DID I Come From? A Refresher Course in Human Reproduction
• Pink Parts - Female Sexual Anatomy

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Thank you Heather. You're right it isn't so much that he's a guy, it's just whenever i try to explain it and say something like "well it also thickens my cervical mucus" he gets incredibly confused, and i just don't know how to explain it right. Thanks for the links, I'll show him =]
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So, with the mucus/cycles, this may also help, too: On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation.

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Okay, one more question, but this one is for me. I know that the placebo pills are just sugar pills and don't contain any hormones, so is it ok if i miss one of those by accident?
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Taking the placebos is totally optional with most regimens (with a few, those are iron pills, so may still be optional, but you may benefit from taking them).

It's okay to miss them or not take them. They're there as reminder pills, to help women stay in the habit of taking a pill at the same time every day, and also to help you remember when to start your next pack. So, if you don't take them, you just want to be sure not to take that first active pill of the next pack late.

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thank you Heather =] I showed my boyfriend those articles, and it helped him a lot to understand. It's nice being able to talk about what's happening in my body with him, I feel like it kinda brought us closer. Having discussed my cervical mucus at length, I feel like we can talk about anything =]
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Yay!

We always this it is SO important for couples to each be really educated about the other's body. By all means, it tends to increase closeness and intimacy, and it also helps people really be sure everyone is making informed choices.

Thanks for letting me know such great news! [Smile]

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