I've watched porn for several years now, sometimes more and sometimes less, and usually I don't feel negatively about it. I like some kinky things, that I've always liked, but for some reason recently it starts to disturb me at the same time that it turns me on, at least with visual porn (as opposed to written porn). I'm sure this has something to do with being in a relationship and feeling a different side of the sexual equation (seeing it as an intimate, emotional, respectful, etc. act) but it still confuses me and makes me somewhat uncomfortable. I want to get off easily and quickly but at the same time I'm a little afraid that maybe if I keep watching these things I'll become 'immune' or it will ruin my ability to think about or get off from other types of sex. I guess I just want some kind of explanation or advice about what to do in the short and long run, what to expect, etc.
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There are a lot of different types of porn. Unfortunately, I have noticed that porn is getting into some niches which may not depict the healthiest relationship dynamics. I would like to congratulate you for still have empathy in the era and advent of 4chan and its ilk.
If you choose to watch porn, maybe you should be specific about the topics. There is pornography that depicts loving relationships. You just have to find it on the sites that cater more to mature audiences. By that, I mean people who are a little more emotionally mature.
It should shock you to see a man hit a woman. It should make you uncomfortable if they're depicting violent acts. Those things are more about dominance and exerting power than they are about sex.
Yes, some people like domination/submission pornography, but even those kinks have rules. It's just too bad that there is stuff out there that appeals to some parts of the human psyche that we would have hoped civilization would have helped us overcome.
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