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Is it wrong for a person to masturbate in the shower?
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If you mean "wrong" as in morally improper, then no. There is nothing wrong with masturbating in the shower, as long as you're not leaving a mess for the person who showers after you. It is perfectly natural to masturbate, and the shower is an acceptable place to do so.
If you are female and masturbating using a shower head on your vulva, however, you have to be careful that you're not spraying water up your vagina, as it can cause health problems.

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what could someone do to not leave it a mess for others?
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A quick rinse with water will do. Sexual fluids don't really pose any more threat to the next user than the grime and sweat that comes off you, so just as you wouldn't leave a ring around the tub or soap bubbles, not leaving any goo would be a good idea. Really, since the water's flowing, it pretty much takes care of itself. :)
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Is it normal to worry about making a mess? Sometimes I feel I worry about it too much and it ends up ruining the experience. What can I do to change that?
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Well, as I said, the shower really doesn't leave a "mess" worth speaking of. And even if it did, sexual fluids are made of the same stuff as urine and sweat, so not likely to be that noticeable.

Outside of the shower, use of a towel under you (if you do your own laundry) or a waterproof tablecloth/picnic blanket if you're the messier type ought to handle things nicely. :)

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When I masturbate, I feel really stressed to finish quickly (so that no one walks in on me). What could I do to take the pressure I put on myself go away?
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How about locking a door? Is that a possible solution where you're living?
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yes it is, and I do. Sometimes I just can't really relax as much as I would like
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Masturbation is a natural thing, there's no reason to be ashamed of doing it. If you don't want to be caught, well there are a lot of simple solutions.

Showers are good for hiding masturbation, the sound of the running water hides most noises.

Masturbating early in the morning or late at night, whilst people are still asleep.

Or just make it a regular occurrence that in the afternoon, you go to your bedroom and listen to music with the door closed. Then you can masturbate in peace, with the music to hide any noise and no one will think it strange you're playing music for a little while.

Having a lock on your bedroom door really helps, if you don't have one, talking to your parents might work. When I was about 13 I was adamant that I needed a lock on my door, simply because at that age I was totally paranoid about anyone walking in on me getting dressed. If you just explain to your parents that you want one for peace of mind, and you're happy for them to keep a key they'll probably be flexible.

And with cleaning up? Don't worry about it while you're doing it. You can easily clean up afterwards with a wet flannel or just tissues, it's nothing to worry about. If you're an ultra messy girl (some girls lubricate a lot on orgasming) try sitting on an old towel, and keeping it hidden in your room somewhere.

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