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XArexYouxGothlicX
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Is it possible to have too much pleasure when being sexually stimulated?

Also, I seem to be "wet" all the time..
And it bothers me.

I appreciate your replies.
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Well, if you're wet all the time, that might just be cervical mucus. Vaginal lubrication and cervical mucus are two different substances. While it may seem like a nuisance to you, cervical mucus is not bad for you. It's part of a normal, healthy vagina. Only if it is seriously discolored, leaks pus or smells really foul should you be concerned (those signs may mean infection!).

And can you have too much pleasure? Only if you are in really poor health and the stimulation gives you a heart attack. That doesn't appear to be the case with you, right? Sexual pleasure increases your blood pressure and heart rate, which can exceed safe levels in unhealthy people.

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Well, I have the same problem, and I find it to
be somewhat embarrassing, even though my boyfriend seem to think its 'hot'. I find it utterly disgusting, myself, but you know.

Thanks for posting though; Gumdrop answered the question I was going to eventually end up asking myself.
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The too much stimulation?
Lawl.
Well,
How do I solve it?
Cause it makes me feel like nasty.

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You can't "solve" how wet your vagina or vulva is. Your vaginal discharges are a normal part of your fertility cycle, a normal part of how your vagina cleans itself, and a normal part of sexual arousal.

Were they all to go away, you'd be infertile, wind up with infections often, and find a lot of genital sex really uncomfortable. THOSE things are problems.

So, what you need to solve is how you think about it, as well as experiencing a lot of pleasure. Neither are nasty, and if you feel they are, I'd suggest taking a look at where you're getting those ideas and what they're really all about.

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Ohh. Okay.
Thank you, bunches.

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During about the middle of my cycle, I get lots of discharge and I have to wear panty liners to keep it from soaking through my pants. Is this a problem, too much "wetness"? And is this the time in which I'm ovulating? How do I know when I'm ovulating, or can I know? Whenever my bf and I have sex and stuff when I'm like this, he thinks I'm "wet" from him, which I feel bad for, because I let him believe he's really turning me on when he's not. =/ Any help here?

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LollySocks.
I have the same problem..
My boyfriend thinks it's his doing that I'm.. well, lets put it this way, "ready fer him."
But.. I'm not..
I'm always worrying about being wet..
It's weird.
But the volunteers here say it's normal.
Now, mind you..
You'd have to get it straight from the horses mouth..
Lawl.

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Well, both of you have the option of being frank with your partners, particularly since it doesn't really benefit men to leave them ignorant when it comes to how our bodies operate. It also certainly isn't going to benefit you to pretend to be very turned on when you're not: if you give that impression, your partner is going to make a habit of doing whatever it is he does to try and make that happen all the time, and if that's something you don't like or isn't that exciting you, you're cheating both of you of better sex, really.

But yes: mid-cycle, due to the timing of ovulation, cervical mucus becomes very thin and fluid. if you want to know for sure when you're ovulating, you can chart it in a couple different ways: Get With the Flow: All About FAM.
regardless, this isn't a problem. It's a niormal part of your fertility cycle.

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But what if it's embarrassing to talk to him about?
I mean..
I don't know.

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To say it with the words of the almighty Joss:"If you're doing it, I think you should be able to say it" (you truly can quote Buffy for everything).

Being able to communicate well is a big part of being sexually active. Here's an article that might help you get into the habit of talking openly with your partner:
Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

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Thank you!
This helped a lot.
I can now hopefully talk to him.
But there will still be weird moments.
Lawl.
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Seriously, it gets less awkward to talk about this stuff with a partner over time. Pretty much every time you talk about sexual things, the time after will feel less awkward, and eventually, it'll be pretty darn easy.

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Okay.
Thank you..
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i have another related question.. i have a little bit of this often wetness, but whenever me and my boyfriend even start kissing and stuff it gets to be alot more.. it's not really stimulation.. is it just a part of being turned on or something??
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Yep. Check it out: Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide.

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Okay.
What's weird.
Even when he just looks at me..
I seem to be a bit more damp.
And that's just him looking at me..
Is that weird?


When he and I are foolin' around...
Sometimes... I don't feel anything.
And I tell him.
But it's weird, cause..
He tells me.. that's not what my body is saying.
And.. I don't understand that..
Do you perphas know why that would be?

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Umm. I still don't understand why I don't feel anything. Maybe you can feel me in?

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Okay... I've been waiting patiently fer about.. a month now, and no one has answered my question.. Not to be a bother, but I would like to know the answer to my question, please and thank you.

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Hi. Sorry it's taken so long for you to get an answer.

You may not be feeling anything for a number of reasons. But one that I can think of it that maybe you're mentally checked out when you and your b/f are doing things. I know sometimes my mind tends to wander and I really have to be into the sexual mentality at the moment to even begin to enjoy it.

Dont let your boyfriend convince you that you want to mess around just because youre wet. I had to respond to this because it annoys me to no end when my boyfriend makes comments about how horny I must be just because I'm wet down there. I know that sometimes I just dont want to because I'm tired from school or work or whatever, but my boyfriend is stimulating me; we're kissing, cuddling etc., my body sure can feel it so I may happen to get wet. You just have to be very open and foward; I said "You're 22 years old, you should now that just because a girl is wet doesnt mean she wants sex, I'm sorry but youre being really naive and inconsiderate, can we please just go to sleep" lol but seriously you just have to be honest. Hope this helps.

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Just to add on that, Gothlic, sometimes vaginal discharge is not limited to sexual arousal.

I have a little trouble understanding the second part of your post, but what I get out of that is that sometimes you don't feel aroused, but you still have wetness. Is that correct?

If you are referring to wetness being "what your body is saying", do know that the vagina cleans itself, often through releasing wet discharges that can appear in the heat of the moment... or while you are standing in line at the bank. So again, sometimes that wetness is linked with stimulation, and sometimes it is not.

(Likewise, it's easy for us to miss additional posts in a thread that has received many replies already-- next time, you can go ahead and post that new question in a new thread for us so we don't get confused and you can get a quicker answer. Thanks!)

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Thank you! Lawl.
SinatraBabe_21-- Okay. Yeah. I understand. But. It's just weird. He and I do need to have a talk about that. My boyfriend is 22 also and he's a lot more experienced than I. Him being my first and all. But. It's I probably could be 'mentally checked out.' As you put it, which I like by the way. Haha.

Horizon-- Yes, I understand that. And maybe I need to tell him that too. Yes, that is correct. It might be, like SinatraBabe_21 pointed out. But I'm not sure. I just have to pay close attention next time.

Thank you fer all your help. Sorry, if I was a pest. Lawl. [Big Grin]

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