I'm 14 years old and I'm still a virgin. One of my friends who I really like, and who i think likes me too, invited me to hang this weekend. Just me and her. She's not necessarily "easy", but she's been sexually active for awhile. I really do like her, and I'm pretty positive she plans on something happening this Saturday. I don't think I want to go all the way with her, not yet at least. You see, I'm not sure if shes the one I want to be with for the first time, but I do defiantly want to be with her intimately. So now I ask Scarleteen, How far along the bases do you think I can/should go without letting it get TOO serious?
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However far you and she are both comfortable with, and to find that out, you need to talk to her before you to become intimate at all.
If she is expecting being sexually active with you at all, you need to sort that out first, and she needs to be aware beforehand what your boundaries are, just you with what her boundaries are. It's also in her best interest that you have this discussion, in case she isn't interested in being sexually active or intimate with you if she had certain expectations that you weren't comfortable with.
From that point, when you've had that discussion, and have laid out what you're comfortable/not comfortable with, you should be able to stop or let her know you need to slow down or step back so you don't do anything you don't want to.
(Also, to add - it's good to know what the laws are in your State on the Age of Consent. The Age of Consent in most states is higher than 14, so it may not even be legal for you to be engaging in certain or any sexual activities at this point. That may be something you want to keep in mind for both her and your best interests, you can read more about that here: http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm or
www.ageofconsent.com - this site usually includes the legal documentation for specific state laws, but it's been unaccessible/down for me recently, so it may not work)
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