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LBelle22
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I have a couple of questions/ topics that I hope will be discussed because I am really curios.

1. Does it really hurt you first time having sex? If so, how badly?

2. When (or if) you bleed your first time during sex exactly how much will you bleed? Alot, like your period, or jus a little bit?

3. Is it really as awkward as people say it is?

4. What if you're both virgins? (you and your partner)

5. Say even if you read up alot on sex and know what you are doing, will the first time still be bad?

Sorry (yet again) for so many questions, it's just that I have a lot of them. Thanks in advance!!! [Smile]

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Have you thoroughly read the articles I linked you to, LBelle? Most of them should answer these questions; for example, you'd know from reading that experiences vary during first intercourse based on an individual's pain threshold as well as state of mind and arousal, and that first intercourse is not likely to be bad, nor great, or.. well, you get the idea. [Smile]

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Becky 12345
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1) It really depends on the person. I thought it would be really painful my first time, but it wasn't at all. I think what helped was that I used A LOT of lube and I was relaxed - if your nervous, you tense up and it makes pentration more difficult and therfore more painful. Also, if you have been fingered before you loose your virginity, this helps stretch the hymen beforehand. I think the only time I felt a bit of uncomfort was when my partner had fully entered and it felt very tight, not necessarily painful thought. So I recommend lots of lube and make sure your relaxed.

2) This one is going to be difficult for me to answer as I didn't bleed on my first time. Like I said in question 1, it depends on the person. I think that if your hymen has already been streched, you either won't bleed at all or it will be very minimal. NB, this is only my personal opinion!

3)Umm, my first time was a little awkward...my partner had trouble entering. He also found the missonary position very uncomfortble.

4) My partner and I were both virgins. It didn't go completely right the first time, but then I believe it doesn't anyway cause neither of you are experienced enough and don't know what to expect. Its different for all couples though.

5) ^ as above
It will go right for some, but not for others

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