I had manual sex with my boyfriend the other night and I have some questions about STI risks.
The facts: He used gloves for me. I tried to put a condom on him but couldn't. (I was wearing gloves and the lube made things slippery. Obviously I need to practice on a few bananas). I removed my gloves and touched him. My hands were clean. I washed my hands after touching him and didn't touch myself until washing.
My question: If your hands touch the penis and then touch the exterior of the condom, is the condom still effective against STIs or pregnancy? (I'm guessing not, but I'd thought I'd double check). In that same vein, how worried should I be about this?
Also, if fingered me with bare hands and then touched his penis, would that be an STI risk for him?
He is my first sexual partner. This is the farthest we've gone so far. Should I be getting myself over to the gynecologists? Should he be going to the doctor's for a checkup too? (I know he has had unprotected sex with a previous partner, which concerns me a lot).
Thank you all! Juniata
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I'm not seeing any STI risks here,though I'm a bit confused because you say he wore gloves, but then talk about bare hands. All the same, STI risks from manual sex are slight.
And touching a condom's exterior is still protected.
Per the GYN, really, sexually active or no, once any woman starts menstruating, it's wise to start those yearly visits, since things can go wrong that have nothing to do with sex. Now that you're becoming sexually active, you'll also want to start those screenings if oral, vaginal or anal sex comes into the picture. Too, if your partner has never had his yearly STI screenings, he should have started by now, so yes, he should get those.
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I was using bare hands because I was having a hard time putting on the condom.
I know that the exterior of the condom is protected, but would it be contaminated if I touched the bare penis first?
Also, he utterly refuses to use dental dams, so I haven't received oral sex. That's ok, but I am right to believe there's an STI risk for female oral sex as well, right?
Thank you!
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There would be a low risk, both for STIs and pregnancy, in that case if there was indeed pre-cum on your hands and you touched the exterior of the condom and then both had intercourse shortly after.
And, yep, you are right in thinking that female oral sex also poses a risk for STIs.
Given you seem to be saying you had some problems putting a condom on, I was wondering if you have ever checked this article out : Condom basics : a user's manual
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