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I've read a lot of topics with girls who can't get orgasims during sex but my problems a little different.
When I try to masturbate, or my boyfriend uses his hands, I cant orgasm. I never have yet but ive been trying just with myself but Ive just turned 16 and havent been doing it for very long, but I just cant get that far and Im not sure if whats happening or what i feel is normal... its like it feels good and how it should but then theres a kind of build up and for some reason i have to stop, like it suddenly feels kinda uncomfortable but i dont know if thats the word :/ and i cant go on or else it hurts a bit so i have to give up. Does anyone else get this or know anything about it?? Ive read about feeling uncomfortable, but I feel fine and completely ready for it and theres not a single reason I can think of if theres something in my brain making me stop.
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I struggle to move just before orgasm, so getting there on my own has been a challenge for quite some time. I can get very close and then hit that almost uncomfortable stage where I just can't continue and have to stop stimulation, making orgasm nearly impossible. However, with a partner, I move past that point, because he is the one stimulating.
Are you trying different things? Many women don't orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone and often need clitoral stimuli, see if that helps.
Remember too, that the point is to enjoy yourself (and the other person if it is partnered activity), so don't put all of your focus, time and effort into waiting for an orgasm. Often it takes time to get to know our bodies and how we individually function different from other people. It's okay to NOT orgasm and just enjoy the moments for what they are... maybe this relaxation alone and lack of pressure is what you need!
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Thanks a million for the responce. Its good to hear someone else say they've had the same problem! Is there any reason for why it happens or how common it is, to just reach that uncomfortable stage and not be able to go further?
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