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I really dont know how to phrase this question..but I'll try,
When exactly, or about what age typically is you clitoris able to be stimulated to the point of having an orgasm.
I ask this because I can clearly remember being maybe 10 or 11 when I had my first orgasm, without inserting my fingers.
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Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm fairly certain that you can stimulate your clitoris for pleasure as early as you discover it. I think I was in 5th grade when I did, which was around the same age as you were, but I've heard stories of small children discovering that rubbing their clitorises feels good, and I don't think there's any reason why the body wouldn't be able to orgasm at a younger age.
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Your clitoris doesn't just magically wake up one day and feel good. It really depends on what age you realize you can (or have an interest in) pleasure yourself.
That said, there is quesion over whether or not toddlers/infants masturbate. I'm on the side that, since babies touch everything anyway, then that includes their own bodies. Whether or not it is intentional is another matter.
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Infants, for the record, do often masturbate, or, more accurately, self-comfort in various ways. Some physicians have even reported ultrasounds in which infants in the womb are touching themselves. Basically, an infant rubbing their genitals comes from the same sorts of motivations as thumb-sucking.
Infant and early child sexuality differ in many ways from adolescent and adult sexuality. Orgasm doesn't tend to be a "goal" for infants and young children: that usually doesn't happen until early adolescence. However, it's normative for genital self-play to begin for children around the age of five. Many people don't remember doing so then -- most likely because again, the aims are different, and it's not really thought of as sexual to the child, but that's an average age kids will often begin some form of self-directed genital stimulation, and orgasm can occur that early as well.
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You know what's weird? Everyone has been a foetus at some point, most of us in utero, yet no-one knows what it's like. It must be the most surreal experience to be in a uterus for 9 months. And what's it like at that first moment where you have the very faintest consciousness of anything at all? It sucks that we missed all this. And it kinda sucks in a way that our sexuality has to change as well. Once upon a time, we'd masturbate a bit but just enjoy it. Now it's so goal-oriented, like you said.
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Well, it doesn't have to be: ultimately, that's a choice we make, and we don't HAVE to shift to having all self-pleasuring (or pleasure with partners) be focused on orgasm. In fact, when it's not, people tend to have much more satisfying sex lives.
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I remember doing it to comfort myself when I was really little and I didn't really know what I was doing. I'd only do it really late at night if I couldn't sleep. Sometimes my mom would catch me and tell me it was dirty and I shouldn't do it. I didn't understand. Maybe that is why I've never had an orgasm and derive very little pleasure from masturbation...
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Well, any type of sexual shaming, especially in early childhood, does tend to leave its mark.
Generally, though, a few incidents with such benign anti-messages will not cause a person to have considerable problems as an adult, so it's unlikely that's a why for never reaching orgasm or not enjoying masturbation.
Per the other posts you've made here, I'd be more inclined to think that a bigger contributor to lack of orgasm would be things like the ethical conflicts you're having with sex, and/or with the sexual dynamics you've talked about existing in your relationship.
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Well, that is certainly possible as well :-)
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