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okay so my bofriend and i were talking abt our fantasies and stuff and he said that his is a lap dance. But then i got to thinking..isnt a lap dance just like straddleing a guy and grinding on his d***? cuz ive already done that and im wonder wut else i have to do to make it a lap dance or if hes thinkin of something else.
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Well, people have different definitions for different activities. So, what you think is a lap dance may not be exactly what your boyfriend was thinking or wanting.
You'll need to ask him more specifically what he meant.
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If i were you i would talk to him. Just bring it up to him where you are talking on the phone or something. Just ask him im sure hell be fine with it. Posts: 20 | From: Winnemucca | Registered: Mar 2006
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Yea i mean i think a lap dance would be more like teasing or something.. like taking your clothes off slow and rubbing up and down him.. it could really turn him on
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In addition, what works for you may not work for everybody else. Communication is the only key to knowing what works for a given couple.
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Sorry I guess I worded it wrong.. I meant to say that it doesn't necessary have to be sexual..
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...And what you're describing isn't sexual?
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you dont need any help with sexual technique, let me just offer my opinion : Just decide everything for yourself, im sure hes not going to stop you and complain.
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quote:Just decide everything for yourself, im sure hes not going to stop you and complain.
ScreamInEcstasy, I'm not really sure that's sound advice. Unless you have somehow been granted the ability to communicate to your partner through thought alone (and, cool as that would be, it's pretty unlikely), it is advisable to actually talk to your partner about sexual activity. It makes everything just that much more enjoyable for all parties.
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