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BlueSpark
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Has any one ever gotten caught masturbating? Or am I just a stupid bum to let myself get caught? My older cousin caught me earlier today. I'm scared. What should I do? I dont want her to tell my parents on Thanksgiving. She's been avoiding me.
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dailicious
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Masturbation is a completely normal and healthy thing. Chances are, your cousin has tried masturbating before, too.

It could be that she's avoiding you because she feels awkward seeing you like that. If there any reason you think she'd tell your parents (if you two don't get along, certain moral beliefs, etc.)?

Could you possibly ask your cousin to speak with you a minute and calmly explain, "About you walking in on me the other day, I'm a bit embarassed and would appreciate it if you'd keep it between us."

As far as being caught, it can happen, and just like most private acts, it can be embarassing and somewhat awkward for someone else to see. In the future, you could try and find times to masturbate when you know you can assure you'll have privacy, like when you're about to go to bed (if you have your own room) or while you're in the shower or bathroom.


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BlueSpark
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Thanks I feel a bit better. Because of Thanksgiving, I'm staying at my cousin's house. I was in her room, which I'm sharing with her, and she just unlocked the door with her key and came in. I thought I was safe but I obviously wasn't. I've been doing it a lot and I couldn't help but do it again. She caught me on the bed, naked waist down, watched me finish, and ran out. My parents are against it (not for religious reasons, but just because they think I'm too young)so that was the first thing that came to mind. I felt so ashamed. She's not even in her room right now. She's sleeping in her sister's room. I'll try and talk to her about it early in the morning. THANK YOU SOO MUCH. I'll write what happens.
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(Another reason this may be more awkward for her is because she may feel that it was an invasion of her space. So it may not be a bad idea as well to apologize that you took advantage of her space and her own privacy.

Also, keep in mind that you ARE in control of your own urges. Make the concious decision in the future to really know what your surroundings are and really know that you do have your own private area to be masturbating in. There's nothing that compells you to masturbate, you don't have to do it at any given time. So knowing you have the safety, time, and assured privacy before you masturbate will help assure you'll have a better experience of it as well.)


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You're right, I am in control of my urges, but I'm really horny these days. I love doing it at least 2-3 times a day, since my brother started letting me watch his porn. I didn't see any harm in doing it. To be honest, I thought she was still in the kitchen downstairs getting everything ready. I'll say sorry to her. I mean I know what you're saying.
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I got a chance to speak with her today and everything is OK. She was avoiding me because she was embarrassed. She found it interesting and a bit arousing. The secret is safe. You're right though, she does masturbate as well. She did tell my other cousin though but it's ok. They playfully make fun of me about it but it's better than getting yelled at by my parents. Thanks a lot for the help. You're advice really worked.
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(One more little reminder here: please do remember that part of the user registration agreement has you agree not to post ANY knowingly false information here. And that some of us are very much not naive.)
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What do you mean fake? Are you living my life to comprehend the actions and events that comprise it? You automatically assume you're the absolute authority on the truths of life? Honestly, you're just working on a website with nothing better to do. Don't assume anything. Now you're probably thinking, we are getting defensive but that's not the case. You have a good thing here and we just don't want you to seem like an idiot. That's all.
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Miz Scarlet's post to you was a gentle reminder that we don't tolerate lying here. Your stories have appeared to be a little far fetched and hard to believe. But hey, maybe you are telling the truth ... You're right; we'll never really know.

I can assure you that everyone on this website has 'real lives' with 'better things to do' ... We like what we do, we just don't enjoy spending our time answering questions for someone who's so obviously 'yanking our chain', ya know?

So, you have a few options here ... Review the guidelines again and try to follow them to the best of your ability, or continue on this path of stiring up trouble and misusing the boards, and having your posting privledges revoked. It's really up to you.

I would strongly suggest that you direct any further comments regarding the boards or the staff to email ... boards@scarleteen.com

Thanks.


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