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jerkyfeind
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okay, this is kinda gross, which is why i gotta do somethin about it. my boyfriend and i are like exhibitionists with our making out. he's pretty good at controlling his "gun" but i can't control my fluids at all and it kinda seeps through my jeans sometimes and that's somethin i really don't want anybody seein.. in fact, i don't even want my boyfriend to see it either cause it's just gross.. first of all, is it normal for that stuff to go through jeans? and what can i do about it? please help!
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Well, first of all, it would probably be a good idea to evaluate how much you are really comfortable with exhibiting. In my last relationship my girlfriend and I got a bit of a reputation for the same thing, and our friends were pretty wierded out by it. It's a good idea to think about the people you are exhibiting yourself to, and be considerate of them.

As far as I know it's perfectly normal for some girls to get wetter than others when aroused, and you seem to just be someone who produces a lot of natural lube. I don't think that's gross. It's just your body. Look on the bright side: you'll probably have to spend less money on artificial lube .

If you have an issue (pardon the pun) with getting your pants wet, maybe you should just refrain in public from the activities that get you so aroused. Barring that, I guess you could try wearing a pad or something. I'm a guy, so I don't know too much about that stuff. I'm sure someone else can give you better advice on that.

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jerkyfeind
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well it's not the exhibiting thing that's a big deal... we only do it around our swinger friends... we're not swingers ourselves but they definitely don't mind. i'm just a little uncomfortable with my body functions is all. i'll try the pad thing till i hear somethin better though!
thanks for the help man.
*runs away in shame* >.<

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Heather
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You know, it strikes me as really odd that you;d feel shame about basic arousal fluids with a trusted partner, but not about your body in general -- which the fluids are part of -- in serious public.

Given, we've all our quirks, but it might be helpful to make a mantra for yourself that reminds you tha if your body is okay for sight, then normative fluids are part of that body.

But yes, it's normal for vaginal secretions during high arousal to seep through clothing. And if you're being at all active in the sex you're having or simulating, remember that you're going to sweat as well, which may be part of the fluids you're seeing.


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jerkyfeind
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yeah, i know, i don't make much sense. i'm just wierd about snot, crying, sweating, bleeding, pretty much all kinds of secretions. kinda of a pet peeve sorta thing.. think maybe i'll just try the pads idea.. >.<
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