I am only fourteen, and am engaging in sexual activities, such as, oral sex, intercourse etc. the whole nine yrd.s. My issue is, whenever I have sex w/my 17 boyfriend, and he has this particular speed (bam, bam, bam,)-quick- I end up with my "walls"-by my vagina lips- swollen, and it hurts like f***!!!! It hurts when we have sex period. But I love him a lot. And im scared that I am putting my self at a bigger risk in getting cervical cancer, because of how young I am. I also thought that maybe the reason as to why I don’t enjoy it like I should is because of our age difference, with him having a huge dick and me having a tight hymen. Are there any suggestions as to what I should do? One last question, if I go to the gynecologist, and receive a physical examination etc., are they supposed to tell my parent that I am not a virgin?
------------------ truely urz, 14113 and babytigga 4eva
First and foremost, you are not of consenting age in Florida. They list their age of consent as 16/18, meaning that as a 16 year old, there is a limit to how old your partners can be (Washington is 60 months).
You said you were fourteen. You also said your boyfriend is 17. This means that if he is engaging in sexual activies with you, it's illegal. If he's caught, prosecuted and found guilty, he'll have to register as a sex-offender. As such, we cannot advocate you having sexual relations with your boyfriend.
Secondly, the size of his penis doesn't matter, because sex can really only be enjoyed if both partners are fully aroused--then the vaginal walls stretch, and can accomodate large things, like a penis. Remember, the vaginal canal is designed to pass a child through during childbirth.
If you've already had sex, the odds of you having a hymen are very slim. As per your worry concerning virginity, telling your parents would be incredibly outdated, not to mention totally agains privacy laws that all medical personall are required to follow.
Lastly, please look at what forum you are posting in. This fits in Sex Basics and Health, to where it will be moved. So, see you there!
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