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My boyfriend has fingered me like 4 times and I never seem to get an orgasim off of it He has even tried other things It all feels really good but I still cant ever get anything. I think it maybe because I am always worried about getting caught that i cant concentrare. Do you have any ideas
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Stress, or performance anxiety (it's not just limited to one gender!) can be a big orgasm inhibitor. However, bear in mind that four times is not all that much, especially if you're not familiar with your own body. If you aren't, I'll link a few articles that'll help you - but personal exploration on your own time is helpful too, to get to know what you like.

If you do know what you like, then communicate what you like to your partner... just remember that pressure or 'spectatoring' as Miz S calls it isn't conducive to orgasm, so just relax and enjoy, regardless of the outcome.

Here are a few articles to clarify some stuff:

Pink Parts
Sexual Response and Orgasm

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