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cherry32
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My boyfriend have been together for almost 5 months and we have fooled around a few times. Everytime we do stuff it seems like hes only pleasing me. I feel like i dont do anything for him. I guess im just scared that I wont do it right. Is there anything that I can do to be more adventrous???
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ask him what he likes
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Heather
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You know, there really isn't anything to do "wrong," so long as you and your partner are communicating.

And the awkward fumbling that can happen when any sexual activity is new to one or both partners is a part of intimacy: to actually create real intimacy, you've got to be willing to look like an *** sometimes, to fumble and laugh about it, to be able to say, openly, "Yo: I have no clue what I'm doing here, but it feels good to me: do you like it, too?" or to simply say what you've said here and engage in a discussion with your partner about it.

And if you don't feel ready for that yet, then that's okay: none of this should be a big hurry, and you should always feel able to go at your own most comfortable pace.

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