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dragnfly
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So I've read up on this site about givin my bf oral sex since I'm intimidated by it (even tho we've had sex) and all i can find is that I should do it with a condom so I dont gotta worry about swallowin or spittin... what if I don't use one? Do I finish him with my hand bc I don't want to swallow or spit... Is it really that nasty to do either of those? Is it normal for girls to not swallow? Y'all help me out with some tips! Thanks!
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dailicious
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1. Use the condom, it keeps things safe. STDs can be transfered via the mouth to genitals, or via the genitals to the mouth.

As far as spitting or swollowing, if you're going to ignore the advice to always use a condom, it's completely up to you and what you're comfortable doing. Talk to your boyfriend, make sure he understands what you're comfortable with, to take things slowly, have him talk to you about when he thinks he's getting to the point he's going to ejaculate if you want to continue manually rather than orally, etc. It's all about communication. It's also completely normal for girls to spit, swollow, give oral and finish differently, or just not give oral sex at all. it's completely up to you.

If it makes you feel better, I had sex with my boyfriend for months before my mouth even came near his penis, and while I enjoy giving him oral as part of foreplay, I have never in my life given oral sex to the point he (or any guy, for that matter, as he was my first) has ejaculated, because it's not something that particularly interests me sexually.


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nuttycow02
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Even tho most people think that oral is a big issue it isnt. if you want to give your boyfriend oral but not swallow or spit, then just do it for a bit until he gets really excited then start having sex! that way he knows that your up for giving oral but more Adventurous. trust me it works!
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quote:
Originally posted by nuttycow02:
Even tho most people think that oral is a big issue it isnt. if you want to give your boyfriend oral but not swallow or spit, then just do it for a bit until he gets really excited then start having sex! that way he knows that your up for giving oral but more Adventurous. trust me it works!


in tihs situation, then you definitely NEED to be using a condom. Otherwise, unwanted pregnancy becomes a factor, too. As if the STD risks weren't enough.

Really folks, what is your objection to safety? are you waiting to get infected first? will that drive home the point? check out what Miz S has to say about it http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum2/HTML/000827.html

if after reading this website and hearing it from all of us, you STILL want to take chances, then i think you missed a valuable point of why ST exists. but hey, that's your call...

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dragnfly
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I failed to make it clear that we have both been tested and are STD-free, so no worries there. Thanks for the response!
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hot4nerds
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I just want to say if you're not comfortable with giving your boyfriend oral sex, don't. There are other activities you can do with him that can be as satisfying.
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