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hey... I've had sex before and I liked it, but now every time I get a chance to have sex with someone, even if I like him and we're in a bed and everything's perfect... well, I'm afraid of it. I get really nervous and scared, like before going on a roller coaster when you're a little kid. I like sex and I want it, it's just that when the time comes, I get weird... can someone help me?
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Its totally normal to be nervous. If everything is right, ur protected, and ready, try to calm down and go for it.
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If you're scared of doing it, it might be something you have to deal with before you can move on.
It sounds to me that its more like you enjoy sex, but still aren't fully comfortable with it yet.
Then again, maybe you and your partner should just take things slower. You might just need more time to build up to the main course, so to speak. A little extra foreplay never hurt anyone.
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did it hurt the first time you had sex? if it did, then that might explain why you are a bit scared to do it again.
for me, it just took a few tries, to work thru the awkwardness and nervousness i felt. (he was my first, he was experienced and i was not, yadda yadda)
it did not help that the second time we did it, his roommate walked in on us and would not get the hint.
what i'm saying is, it'll just take some time, and maybe some practice. good foreplay might help you relax a little, too.
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Maybe you're just confused now. Its normal you want to have sex, because its a natural impulse. But you shouldn't be scared though, are you with the right guy? at the right time? If it feels weird, just DON'T DO IT and wait. Your body might be ready, but not your mind. remember that
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