I've heard that for guys, masturbating too often "desensitizes" them for when they do have sex/sexual acts performed on them. What this means is, the more a guy masturbates, the less able he is to achieve orgasm-- or it takes longer to ejaculate, I've heard. It seems to me like it'd make sense-- but is there truth to this? Thanks in advance for your info.
From my knowledge, unless the guy has problems "getting it up" then masturbating often (unless it is REALLY overdone like more than once a day) shouldn't effect how a guy performs during sex UNLESS he has JUST done it while with you. For instance, if you give oral sex to the guy you are with before you have sex, he will take longer to orgasm the second time while still with you in that same period of time. Also, when he cums during the second orgasm (if he cums) it will be less than the first time.
This is what i know... i'm pretty sure that it's all true... but don't take my word for all of it.
When masterbating, the tendancy is to get rough with the penis. Therefore, the guy would require rough sex. But it will be the girl's "chore" to help retrain the guy for normal sex that isn't rough. It might mean that the girl will have to help masterbate the guy using gentle strokes, etc. & massage oil or lotion.
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Brenda, to answer your question, no, it does not desensitise men to masturbate frequently.
PoohBear, you are largely correct but please do not characterise "more than once a day" as "overdoing" masturbation. There is no limit on how many times a day, year or lifetime it's healthy to masturbate, unless it's interfering with your daily life. OK? [ ]
Soldier, your post is utterly incorrect in it's facts, and also very bad practice in assuming all males are or will be having sex with females.
And neither women nor men have sexual "chores" in a healthy relationship.
in particular, soldier, the idea of a partner masturbating a male with massage oil or lotion is that oil will decay latex-- which should be used to prevent the transmission of sexually transmited infections. instead, using a water-based or silicone lube to perform manual sex on a penis can be much more enjoyable for both the man and his partner(s) than using no lube at all.
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