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Nookiebabe16
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I was just wondering, is there a such thing as the "proper" thing to say after sex? I mean me and my boyfriend plan on just looking in each others eyes , but my friends have been telling me you should say things. Likw what?! i mean like "thank you?" thats a little wierd. I was just wondering, but i guess its based on the individuals
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Thank you would be very weird.

Why not just whatever comes to your mind? If it's I Love You, then say it. If it's nothing, don't say nothing. If it's ewww, don't say. I don't think critisms are appreciated .

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Mophead
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What do you want to say? Personally, I think that if you're having sex, you should be at the level of communication where knowing what to say after isn't such a big deal.

What would you feel like saying after?

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Gumdrop Girl
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i've been thanked afterwards before, and I simply don't like it. it sort of makes me feel like i've done them some service and that now they have to leave some cash on the nightstand and taxi fare so I can leave in the morning. it weirds me out.

i do what i do 'cause i care. i don't need to be thanked. but that's just me.

my boyfriend and i spend time staring at each other. i tell him i love him. he tells me he loves me. then we'll crack jokes or i'll rant about politics or rant about my classes. or we'll talk about what we want for dinner or breakfast or lunch. it's normal conversation.

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unhappykoger
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me and my husband just get up and do our own thing seperately after sex. i dont know why but we both just get up and walk off. we used to look in each others eyes but not anymore. and we do still thank each other every now and then. but i guess we a little different because we have been together for a while and nothing is weird anymore.

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Heather
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"Who's making dinner?"
"Could you get me a glass of water?"
"Umm, you may want to remove that condom before you put your pants on."
"Well, that was fun."
"Boy, I'm tired."
"We should do that more often."
"I hope we weren't too loud for the neighbors."
"Okay, you make the bed and I'll get the coffee."
"This mattress really stinks. We need to get a new bed."
"I love you."
"I like you."
"Same time next week?"
"Gee whiz!"
"Good night."
"Good morning."

...or nothing. In other words, sex is a normal part of your life, not an alien abduction. You'd say whatever you feel like saying based on how you feel at the moment. "Planning" what you'll do or say implies that sex is NOT a normal part of your life, or something you feel you can do comfortably.

Be yourself.

(And if you find yourself saying things after sexual activites like this: "What was your name again?" "Oops, I thought YOU said you'd remember to use a condom." "Get me a beer," or "That felt awful, per usual," you may want to rethink your sexual life or habits. Big time.)

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BruinDan
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You: "Ohhhh....that was so wonderful!"

Boyfriend: "Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz"

=)

--Danny


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glitter695
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Why do you have to say anything? Just hold eachother, or why not turn on the TV? I mean there is nothing that say, you have to say something after sex.

Its just normal for my boyfriend and I to talk after sex, whatever comes to our mind its not a big deal and it never was. Just say what you feel.

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Lin
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Nothing very romantic unfortunately.

"Don't open the door. I have't put my pants on yet"

"That was fun"

"I'm going to watch soccer."

"Oh my, you never did that before"

But we never not say anything. We're kinda talkative people. Oh fine, I'm talkative and I just have to say something every minute.


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Time for a snack tends to be something my husband and I say fairly often.

Seriously, I agree with Heather, if you have to have a script about your feelings or mood, then that doesn't seem very "comfortable". Yes, indeed, be yourself!

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After sex i feel like i just want to crawl inside my boyfriend so i just hold him as tight as i can and hope he feels how much i need him.
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Well, since sex is different for everyone, I would think that an after response would be different also. So... It's all up to you.

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Mophead
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"I gotta go; my mom needs the phone."
"I gotta reboot my computer."
"ICQ isn't responding... hang on a sec."
"Thank you master."

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Eclipse
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LOL! Now, this would be a fun stupid-college-party game. A particularly uninhibited group could do a "guess which ones are real" competition. ;-)'


"Hurry up and get dressed, we still have to walk home."

"You're such a naughty boy!"

"Ahhh, that was nice. Time for sleep."

"That reminded me of something I was reading on Scarleteen the other day..."

"That wasn't in 'The Perfumed Garden,' was it?"

"Again!"

"You can turn the music off now..."


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alaska
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"That new lube was FABULUOUS!"

"How many times did that CD go on repeat?"

"Woah."

"So do you reckon we can still make it to the shops on time?"

"I don't think you still want to go to your lecture now, do you?"

"Where did you throw my undies/socks/bra?"

"Hm, we should change the sheets later."

"purrrrrrrrrrrr."

"hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm ich liebe dich, Männchen."

We always talk. We talk during sex and after sex and before sex. So what we say afterwards really doesn't differ very much from other random conversations.
And I agree with everyone else: Be yourself. No need for a post-sex script.

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Haha You guys are great

Hey Alaska: "Schnurr fur mich, katze!" I used to say that to my girlfriend allll the time.

--Danny

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"My *insert guys name*", then he says "My *insert my name*"
Wow
I love you
You're the best
Can I get some blanket?
Where's the kleenex?
You're roommate's not coming back anytime soon, right?
Here's your shirt...where'd you throw mine?

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