Ok. First off I have never orgasmed (sp?) 2nd off background info: 19, comfortable w/ sexuality, w/ partner (he's the best) and despite no big Oh still enjoy sex. So, why the heck can't I come? I've come very close through manual stimulation, not oral, just very very fast manual at just the right spot, get somewhat close (building sensation) when I'm on top, but during both I seem to somewhat fight it. When I get really close through manual stimulation I seriously back away from my BF and say "No more! No more!" I don't know why, I mean I would like to come but it's like I can see the finish line just can't cross it?
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You said that you come close during manual stimulation, which is pretty usual considering that most women can only orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation. Have you ever orgasmed while masturbating? I'd say that you really should go and have some self-sex time, because once you see what you like and what makes you orgasm, you can help your boyfriend out on what to do. Since you're 19, and live in the US, you can go buy a vibrator if you want, which could definetly help you orgasm.
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I feel the need to qualify Pixie's statement: when it comes to GENITAL stimulation, mort women are likely to be aroused and reach orgasm via clitoral stimulation than solely by vaginal stimulus.
I know it sounds nitpicky, it's just a fine point, but an improtant one, since people who can't even FEEL their genitals at all are also able to orgasm.
And good advice Pix: start by taking sex into your own two hands. Some of what may be ahppening is that you're smimply having some anxiety from not knowing what to expect.
Anything I add now would be redundant. However, one thing, try not to focus on the orgasm. If it happens, great. If it doesn't, great. If it was an overall pleasurable experience, there's really nothing to fret about, imho. Worrying about orgasming isn't going to help it along. Relax and follow the others' advice.
I'll move this to Sex Basics.
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