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fLoWuRz
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i have a slight problem...well, whenever my boyfriend....ahem...."fingers" me, it REALLY hurts. And i'm pretty experienced in this area (i mean, i've been active this way for about 3 years now). It's actually always been pretty uncomfortable and i was just wondering if anyone has this same problem? its kinda embarasing b/c out of nowhere i'll scream "owww!!" and my bf's like "oh my god i hurt you!" It's pretty weird cause it doesnt even hurt as much as the first time i had intercourse!!!! please help!!!!!
thanks!!

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glitter695
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You should use the search button, I swear to you Miz S and everoyne has anwsered at least 5392875492837 million question on this...but anyways to get back to your question, yes I have, let out a yelp when my boyfriend has fingered me and he has asked the same thing. But you know what? If it feels uncomfertable for you, dont have him finger you anymore. Talk to your boyfriend, tell him what hes doing wrong, and how he can fix it, and the way YOU like it. Thats the only thing you can do. Unless his fingers are giant ape size, then you have some real probelmos. Just communicate with him, thats the best thing you can do.

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Femalepleaser
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quote:
originally posted by:glitter
Unless his fingers are giant ape size, then you have some real probelmos.

For some dumb reason i started laughing pretty damn hard cause we'll i was picturing an ape, well you know what it was doing to her.


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Heather
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Why are you engaging in a sexual activity which doesn't feel good to you?
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Lin
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Well what Miz S is asking is something you should really think about.

But, to answer your question. i notice that it only hurts when my bf is fingering me when he doesn't cut his nails. Not only does that hurt, it is also very unhygienic. So, now I check that his nails are cut and the pain has really gone away.

Seriously, I never knew about wearing latex gloves when fingering so I'm going to try that soon. Shows how informed I am about sex.

So flowurz, if you really want your bf to finger you, it might help if you were relaxed and his nails were cut. Otherwise, you might want to try latex gloves.

BUt don't force yourself to do something that makes you uncomfortable. Just be honest with him, I am sure he will understand.


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fLoWuRz
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thanks alot for the advice! i talked to my bf about it and we're going to try and work on it!!!!
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