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hey whats up? I just want to know, each time you guys have sex, do you get worried about the condom breaking, or do you just go on with it and have fun? I'm afraid that when I start having sex, Im going to be worrying about the condom breaking rather then enjoying myself! Posts: 117 | From: America..~*hehe*~ | Registered: Jun 2000
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Hey hun! If you worry too much during sex, it makes it harder to enjoy. Part of having an orgasm is thinking about having it. If you don't feel like you deserve an orgasm or you are too worried about something else, chances are, you won't have one. So if you're gonna take your chances and have sex, don't waste it by worrying!! Get a dependable condom and enjoy the ride, baby!
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Of course you are gonna worry, especially when you see that many of your friends just keep on getting pregnant. The only thing that helps a little is knowing that if the condom does break, falls off, or your B/C fails, you still have abortions to fall back on! Plus, having sex feels so awesome, that when you are doing it you really cannot think about anything else at all.
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quote:Originally posted by HotGrrl99: Plus, having sex feels so awesome, that when you are doing it you really cannot think about anything else at all.
And there's the rub.
Sheller, the reason why in a lot of material on intercourse we go into detail about being prepared to be pregnant and/or deal with a pregnancy is because it can happen, and you SHOULD be concerned about it if were it to happen you'd be totally unprepared.
My personal feeling, and what I espouse here at the site is this: you do everything you can to avoid it, if you're not tryiong to get pregnant, and you also are prepared to deal with it in one way or another should it occur. If you just cannot deal with it, you just shouldn't be having sex.
In other words, we can only afford to let our brains go on vacation if we know we've got hotel reservations and an emergency plan in case our passport gets stolen.
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Yes I have worried about the condom breaking and it has because it was my first time as well as his and we did not know how to put one one we just thought it was safe. But if you know how to put one on and have extra protection like sperimacide or if you don't want to catch somthing like AIDS then there no 100% that it will or will not break you just have to go with it. Try your luck but more in likly it won't so just have fun luck will be on your side
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Well since ive never had sex i wouldnt know... but i would be concerned..since i would want my girl (dont have one at the moment)and i both to be safe..and also be able to fullfill each others needs..
Only thing i had was a bj from a girl..who said she liked me but later dumped me..only lasted about 10 seconds..since we were at a friends..she kept rushing and that..and when i found out she has had multiple partners im glad i quit seeing her...
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I don't worry about it, I use condoms right now. I think if you're worried, you're not ready. NOTHING but abstincence is 100% percent so I think if you're not prepared to handle the responsibility that comes with sex, don't do it!
But you might want to talk to your doctor about birth control, it's always good to use both condoms and birth control.
Also, HotGrrl99....are you serious about abortion always being an option?? Abortion is NOT any means of birth control! I am against abortion as it is (unless in a case of rape or incenst) because when you have sex you are taking full responsibility for your actions. I don't mean to preach to you but that is NOT the way you should be thinking. Just had to say that.
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quote:Originally posted by HotGrrl99: Of course you are gonna worry, especially when you see that many of your friends just keep on getting pregnant. The only thing that helps a little is knowing that if the condom does break, falls off, or your B/C fails, you still have abortions to fall back on!.
Obviously your friends arent using EFFECTIVE b/c. If the condom breaks, abortions are not a "fall back on" measure, the morning-after pill is. If you are that worried about getting pregnant though and are not prepared to accept responsibility for your actions then i suggest that you not have sex in the first place
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