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i am really nervous about my first time is there any tips on how to make sex good and to not make a mess of it
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thanks a million karbu i readthem but what do i need to do to get ready for sex what if we cant get our private bits together
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What you need to do to get ready for sex depends largely on what it is you're still missing. If, for example, what's missing from the picture is reliable birth control, then you can talk to your partner about your options, and make an appointment to see a health care professional if she wants to try a method of hormonal birth control.
If what's missing is more of an emotional nature - if either of you isn't feeling ready for sex yet - then you'll want to talk about what it is that's holding back and see if you can work through that. Keep in mind, though, that this isn't something you can, or should, hurry: if someone's not feeling ready, they're not feeling ready, and they'll just need to listen to their body on that and take all the time they need.
As for your second question, can you maybe reword that for us? What do you mean by saying "we can't get our private bits together"?
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"The question is not who will let me, but who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand Posts: 8422 | From: Cologne, Germany | Registered: Sep 2005
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i maen what if i cant get inside my girlfriend i dont have a girlfriend yet but i am 18 years old and i am afraid that if i get a girlfriend she will want sex i have never even kissed a girl how do i go about getting a girl friend plese help
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Well, let's not put the cart before the horse, okay? There's no need to freak out about the technicalities of sex if you don't have a potential sex partner. Let's just take this one step at a time, okay?
There also shouldn't be a need to worry about being with a partner who expects sex. Any caring, loving partner would be ready and willing to wait until you feel comfortable with sex. Anyone who pressures you into sex isn't a good partner to have.
As for finding a girlfriend - people meet partners the same way the meet friends. At school, at work, at social activities, etc. Do you attend school or college? If you don't feel like there's anyone in your classes that you'd want to get to know better, you can join a club to get to know different people. If you're not in school, you can try getting involved in your community: start volunteering for an organization, join a reading club at a library, etc. There's tons of ways to get involved and meet new people.
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"The question is not who will let me, but who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand Posts: 8422 | From: Cologne, Germany | Registered: Sep 2005
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