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Selene Silver
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Hey all! My name is Selene, and I'm 14. So, I don't know if it's always been like this and it just wasn't an active thought, or if it's recent. But anyway, there was this girl classmate I had, and she was mad beautiful, and mad cool. Up until then, I knew I was straight. But when I met her, I liked her, more than I did a guy. We hung out a lot at school, but when I moved, she was something I knew I'd miss. But my confusion is, am I bisexual or bi-curious? I'm really not too sure, but I want to find out. Help, please! [Confused] [Frown]
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Heather
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Welcome to the boards! [Smile]

Have you looked at this yet: Q is for Questioning?

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Selene Silver
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Yes ma'am, I did. ^^ Is there anywhere I can look for maybe a local or online group for bisexual teens? I'd like to meet some others as well. ^^
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lily23
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I'm 16 and just had my first kiss. Ive been asked out before and all that but Ive never really felt that much of an attraction to either sex. Ive had crushes before but nothing at all sexual, The guy who i kissed didn't at all use tongue but it went on for like an hour. I guess what my question is is it abnormal to basically define myself as (asexual)? Or am i just worried for nothing? [Confused]
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Heather
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One person really can't represent all people, nor can our feelings about or with one person represent our feelings about or with everyone, or even anyone, else. because things didn't feel like anything or weren't enjoyable with this one guy doesn't mean they won't be with someone else, or won't at a different time in your life.

But by all means, you get to identify however feels best to you. If asexual is what feels authentic to you and is how you'd like to identify, you get to do that. Maybe that is how you'll ID through your life, and maybe it isn't, but all any of us can ever know is where we're at at a given time and where we've been, we can't see into the future. So it's always okay to identify as we feel in the moment and know ourselves from our history to date.

That said, I think it's safe to say that few people are going to have a really good idea about what their sexuality is in their teens. This is really the time of life when you are just starting to get to know that, rather than finishing.

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