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I find it easier to imagine having sex with a girl than with a guy. This may just be because I'm a lot more familiar with female bodies, through having sisters, etc. On the other hand, maybe it's my subconscious trying to tell me something. And guys just make me so nervous.

So even though I've heard a lot of people say "oh, if you're gay, it'll be this emotional thing" are there people for whom it really comes down to "well, I'm more comfortable with the way things are physically in a same-sex relationship"?

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i think that if you get aroused by girls then you could be gay or bi. do you get aroused by guys too?
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You know you're lesbian when you are strongly emotionally and sexually attracted to women.

Really, it really is about that simple.

But if women seem appealing only because women seem "easier" in some way, or somehow less complicated, not only is that a misnomer, that's not really something considered an indicator of homosexuality. When you're homosexual, just like if you're heterosexual, even if dating or partnered sex is or seems complex, or a given group of people seem complicated, that wouldn't halt an attraction to them and also somehow magically create an attraction to a different group.

That said, some women do identify as political lesbians... as women who want to dedicate their lives only to women, partner only with women, or who are sepratist, but in my experience, most of those women are pretty clear about that being a political choice rather than a sphere of attraction.

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I've been emotionally attracted to guys in the past. Yet i still consider myself completely heterosexual-- primarily because i would never even consider having intercourse of any kind with a guy, hence the 'sexual' part of hetero or homo. Being a bi is totally not what i would do but everyone has their own limits with bisexual thinking-- "do you really go for both, or do you actually prefer one, and go for the other when that one doesnt work out..."

Ask yourself these questions; you may just find an answer, though its not always that simple.

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