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Funnybunny04
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I think I'm going crazy. I apparently do not have a sexuality. I don't want to be bisexual (even though I think that's where I stand) because I don't want to be seen as trendy...I have been with a girl and a few guys.Still a virgin...am I whining?
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Milke
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No, but I think I understand what you're talking about. It's okay to not have a labelled sexuality, whether that's because you dislike choosing a title for feelings that don't seem to suit it, or because you just don't like the label. It's alright to like something and not feel that doing so puts you into a certain role. I'm one of those people too, if it makes you feel any better.

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mnsouthpawjr
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You're going through a rough time and that's okay. You're perfectly human for discussing how you feel. It's not uncommon to feel the way you do. If people didn't express them the way you did, we would NOT be humans.

As Milke said, you don't have to be labelled if you don't want to be

I personally don't think there's anybody out there who wants to be bi. IF I had an optimal choice, I'd rather be attracted to guys (gay) or attracted to gals (straight). There's a difference too between actions and feelings. Some can argue that not acting on your thoughts makes you straight and you are only gay or bi if you act on it.

Take your time to determine your sexuality.. Seek support groups or other peers to discuss how you feel. You're NOT alone.


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kythryne
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Sorry, mnsouthpaw, but I know a lot of people who are perfectly happy being bisexual, and wouldn't choose to change their sexual orientation even if they could. I'm one of them, in fact.

It's just fine for you to say that you'd rather be attracted to only one sex, but please keep in mind that everyone is different, and what holds true for you may or may not be true for others.

Thanks.

[This message has been edited by kythryne (edited 04-12-2003).]


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Sera Mayhem
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quote:
Originally posted by mnsouthpawjr:


I personally don't think there's anybody out there who wants to be bi.


Actually... I would say there is. Like, me! I think it's actually better to be bi/pan/omni-sexual... It makes you more open. I am not, however, imposing my veiws upon anyone.


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Milke
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More open to what? How so?

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Milke, with an L, SSBD, RATS, TMNTP, MF

I still love you, oh, I still love you
...Only slightly, only slightly less than I used to


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Heather
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A little note on that sort of sentiment: saying that isn't all that different than saying you think it's better to be white, or female or of a certain body type.

Give it some thought.


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