I've recently come out of the closet. I'm bi. Everybody's been freaking out, really. The guys all want me to make out with some chick, and the girls are avoiding me, thinking I'm going to try to hit on them.. I really don't know what to do. I've lost so many friends. I have maybe three (girl) friends who still associate themselves with me. I'm afraid of my family finding out and being ashamed of me. My sister who's in college has a gay friend and my family doesn't mind, but he's not in the family. So they might act differently if they found out about me.. What do you think? Should I just tell them? Help.. please..
Posts: 2 | From: Chicago, IL, USA | Registered: Oct 2002
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hey, girl. I'm sorry for what you've been experiencing lately. I guess we know that some topics can be socially rough for people to deal with. I just wanted to let you know that there are alor of us "Bi" women out there and alot of us are still "in the closet." I, personally, am still in the closet but that does not mean that I'm not "true" to myself or that I'm in "denial." just that i don't want to "deal" with the reactions my female freinds would have. I've had plenty of oportunities to be outwardly "Bi" when i felt comfortable and the time was right. Then again, I'm almost 19 and i think the people around me now are more mature that younger teens and they can handle my choice to keep my sexual preferences and practices in confidentiality. I think i choose my battles wisely but i can't speak for you. or anyone else. I wonder, however... Did you expect a different reaction that the one you recieved? I could never imagine a social group younger than 18 being mature and sensitive enough to handle your news sensitively. I also understand if you felt like it was eating you alive and you just needed to say something! so, please don;t take my words as being negative in any way. stay strong!
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