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Ok, so I know I am a lesbian, I can say it now!!!!! After keeping everything inside for so many years I want to tell people, but I don't know how. I will have no problem telling my Mom, she is great and accepting of almost anything. But my problem is still worrying about what everyone will say where I work. There are only 2 lesbians that work there, and everyone constantly makes fun of them and are disgusted with the whole thing. I want to have a relationship with Jane....sigh.... and she comes to where I work 3 times a week, if we ever do get together, it would be so rude to tell her I want to be with her, but I want to hide it from everyone else..... I almost feel like moving to a different state and starting all over, just let everyone know up front, but that is just running away from my problem, I know. I just don't know how to go about this. Do I hang a big sign in the breakroom at work? Attention All: Heather is a lesbian! Ya right, lol. Thank you all for your good advice. Posts: 7 | From: Bangor, Maine, USA | Registered: Jan 2002
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Hey...so, I know I'm a little younger than you, but my best advice is to not come flying out of the closet. I did that in highschool...and nothing exactly frightening happened, but it definitely made me feel like people were thinking of me as the "gay girl", not as *me*. I think the best way to go about it is let people know if you want them to know, but don't broadcast it in a memo or anything. Think about how well you know them, if they *really* need to know, as well as how they feel about gay stuff in general. Also, think about how vulnerable you as a person are to what others think of you. I'm pretty...insecure...so I'm always thinking about that. However, if you let insults and teasing just roll off your back... Allrighty. Good luck!! Congrats on coming out to yourself, that's the biggest step.
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After keeping everything inside for so many years I want to tell people, but I don't know how. I will have no problem telling my Mom, she is great and accepting of almost anything. But my problem is still worrying about what everyone will say where I work. There are only 2 lesbians that work there, and everyone constantly makes fun of them and are disgusted with the whole thing. I want to have a relationship with Jane....sigh.... and she comes to where I work 3 times a week, if we ever do get together, it would be so rude to tell her I want to be with her, but I want to hide it from everyone else..... 
I almost feel like moving to a different state and starting all over, just let everyone know up front, but that is just running away from my problem, I know. I just don't know how to go about this. Do I hang a big sign in the breakroom at work? Attention All: Heather is a lesbian! Ya right, lol. Thank you all for your good advice. 
Think about how well you know them, if they *really* need to know, as well as how they feel about gay stuff in general. Also, think about how vulnerable you as a person are to what others think of you. I'm pretty...insecure...so I'm always thinking about that. 
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