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MickyDomino
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I sat down and talked to him about it. It turns out he decided he couldn't get over her, and that he was just experimenting with me, and the first we kissed, according to what he told me last night, was "Very awkward" and he never wanted to do it again. I expected cry, but instead, I stood, and I punched him in the face, called my mom and she came and got me. But now I need to know what I am gonna' do now.

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Karybu
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I'm so sorry to hear that. [Frown] Breakups suck no matter what, but the first one can be extra-difficult. What are you doing to take care of yourself right now, and what can we help you with? (I'll be offline for a couple of hours, but back around later this afternoon if you want to talk.)

[ 05-02-2010, 12:05 PM: Message edited by: Karybu ]

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MickyDomino
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Well right now, my friends are trying to comfort me, and I am kind of hoping to find some ways to be able to get over this fast.

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Karybu
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It's great that you have friends around to help you deal with this. You might also try doing some things that you really enjoy or something you think will distract you; reading a favourite book, watching a good movie, etc.

Also, have you read this yet? Boys DO Cry: How To Deal With A Breakup Like A Man

(Btw, just so it's clear - and I should have mentioned this earlier - punching people is never an okay response, even if you're really upset with them or something they've done.)

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MickyDomino
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Yeah, I bought a bunch of new tablets and sketch pads today. I think Im gonna write and draw my feelings down you know. I knew it was wrong, but it was an impulsive thing, and I couldnt help it.

Ill give it read, thanks so so much for helping me Kary (would you rather I call you Karybu?)

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Either name is fine. [Smile] Glad to hear you've got an outlet for your feelings; I've always found writing especially to be really helpful when I'm upset about something. I hope you start feeling better soon!

[ 05-02-2010, 08:58 PM: Message edited by: Karybu ]

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Micky, I just want to make sure you're aware that we always CAN help not physically assaulting someone. Doing that is a choice, even if it is an impulsive one.

So, if you're finding it feels like you CANNOT help reacting that way, I'd encourage you to seek out some counseling around managing your anger, okay?

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MickyDomino
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Okay thanks Heather, I did go see the school counseler. I did apologize to him today.

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Heather
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Micky, I just wanted to check up on you and see how you're doing.

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MickyDomino
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I am doing good, I have seen the guidance counselar and we've been talking. I haven't spoken to my ex since I apologized, and I am currently writting stuff down in this huge journal I bought. So I have been doing okay,thanks for checking up.

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