I know this is perhaps a hard-to-answer question, but i wanted to know what you thought.[I'm a girl btw]
Is there a way to know if you're actually bisexual, as opposed to hetrosexual with bi fantasies or whatever?
What got me thinking was that, when I fantasise to masterbate or whatever, girls are present as much as guys, and it's usually the girls that get me 'in the mood', but when it comes to photographs or real life people it's usually guys who I like or see as sexy.
I certainly see girls as attractive, as well as guys, but I never really have an emotional link with girls in so much as I wnat to go out with them or imagine a relationship with them. The idea of lesbian sex doesn't turn me on either.
I assume that since I don't view women as something I want for a relationship, I'm not bi. But i've no idea how you really tell. Is it just normal sexuality for a hetrosexual to have sexual feeings for both genders in one way or another even if they're not bisexual?
Thanks for the help
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It is actually perfectly normal to have same-sex fantasies, but not be interested in the same sex in real life. Our fantasies are just that: fantasies. We often fantasize about things we aren't interested in actually carrying out in real life.
So, fantasizing about girls when you masturbate says nothing about your sexuality.
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