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This is less of a question and more of a rant.

So, I've recently met this woman who has been with her partner for around 20 years and they have two children. She has been a really kind and supportive person for me to talk to. It has also been good for me to see her family and to really know that this kind of family can be functional and happy. It has made the possibility feel more real.

She was telling me about her daughter at middle school, whose best friend was a Sri Lankan girl (I am also Sri Lankan). When the friend's parents had met one of the mothers alone, it had been fine. But once they had met the couple together, they started making excuses and avoiding their child. And the girls cannot be friends anymore. Which is a little bit heartbreaking.

It reminded me of when I was at middle school, and my best friend's mother was lesbian. The boys in our class used to taunt her with "Your mum's a lesbian!". And I would watch her anger and shame and I would shout back "Who cares?! It doesn't matter!". Perhaps not the best comeback, but 13 years later, I'm still shouting the same thing. Except, it feels more personal now.

Ir makes me sad and angry when our people act like this. I know it isn't everyone. I know it takes time for peoples' ideas to change and that it's so easy to be scared of something that you don't understand. But that isn't the fault of two 11 year old girls. Or of a wonderful couple who love their children to bits.

I think that one of the most harmful things we can do to our children is to teach them bigotry and intolerance.

[ 01-17-2009, 07:03 PM: Message edited by: eryn_smiles ]

"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation and that is an act of political warfare."

Audre Lorde

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I wanted to start by saying that I love your signature!

And of course queer parents are awesome [Smile]
Some of the few I knew are actually way better than their heterosexual counterparts.
First, the "LGBT-parents-are-bad"-argument is ridiculous. It says that LGBTs are more prone to diseases, are mentally ill, and all that. Or according to my very favorite source for comedy, the Concerned Women for America, gays have a shorter life span, whether they actually have sex or not. Suuuure.

While some of this may be true, it's not because of one's homosexuality, but because of society's intolerance for it, which results into stigmatization and discrimination of homosexuals, resulting in not-so-kosher behavior. Also, most studies prove that children raised by same-sex parents are as healthy as their "traditionally"-raised peers, both physically and mentally. And the gender roles excuse is just stupid. We allow single moms or dads to raise their kids, don't we?

It's pretty said that our culture still can't adapt to social progress, but these kids will grow up having something children of (most) straight people lack: an open mind.

And that the girl wasn't allowed to see her friend anymore made me think of this video about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict.

I know there is an over the rainbow for me.

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