thanks

You don't say how old the two of you are. That may make a difference in a situation like this, as to whether one or both of you are going to be out of the parental house any time soon.

As the situation stands, though, it sounds like the best option for all involved may be to respect the wishes of her parents--not because they're right, but because it sounds like your girlfriend's life is being made pretty miserable.

If she has been having issues with not being able to see you enough in the past, and now you can't see or talk to her at all, it sounds like this relationship will not be able to work for her. It doesn't sound like a particularly pleasant spot for you, either.

I don't think hiding it is the answer; that may just bring about more extreme reaction from her parents when they find out (and they will--parents, somehow, always know). It sounds to me like this may spell the end of your relationship, and while that's sad, it may be the best thing for all involved until she is able to free herself from the restrictions of her parents.

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Laurel Lemming
Scarleteen Advocate

i just don't know if i'm willing to do that right now. i know its stupid, but i'm being selfish. We've both been home from school sick the last two days so i've gotten to talk to her sporadically online. we talked a bit about not being able to see each other, and agreed that we were both okay with it for now, and we'd just have to see where things went...

thanks for the advice though... it is probably the smartest thing, i guess im just not willing to be smart about this...

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