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I have been out for about four years now. I had only been with girls until I got into the habit of having threesomes. I love engaging in threesomes and find it a great way to have sex. Since men are involved, would I still be considered full lesbian or would people consider me bi? I enjoy both sexes. Am I still fully lesbain?

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If you fantasize about both men and women, and if you enjoy being sexual with both men and women, I'd say that people would probably consider you bisexual.

But, so what? There really is no such thing as being 'fully lesbian', I think, and people who do think there is - or people who judge you based on who you sleep with - with are people that I'd consider a waste of time.

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And threesomes needn't be mixed-gender, just to avoid any definition confusion.


Worst attitude of them all!

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It's also worth mentioning that there are some women who define themselves as "lesbian-identified bisexuals" or "lesbians who sometimes sleep with men" or other terms like that.

That can be to indicate that although they may experience sexual attraction to men, their primary emotional relationships are with women, or that they feel part of the lesbian community, or some other reason - so that just "bisexual" on its own doesn't seem wholly accurate to them.

The thing about labels is that you get to choose which one seems to be the "best fit" for you and how you want to identify yourself.

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